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writes:I have decided to leave home after uni starts in september and cut ties with my unbearable family...Is it unrealistic to expect to cope financially without my parents' help? I want to make it on my own but I am not sure if I am being too ambitious. I will miss my family, they are my blood relations after all, but living with them is starting to irritate me..my mother likes to boss me about constantly, telling me to how to dress, how to act and to suppress my personality(I am quite bubbly and she finds this embarrrassing) I am always told I am fat ( I'm not, just she's stick thin and I do have a bit of meat on me)and is always on at me to lose weight, so she locks the kitchen apart from when I have to prepare meals for my brother. I am expected to do all the housework by my father who seems to think I am ungrateful. I don't mind the odd chore, but I have to clean kitchen, bathrooms, bedrooms and living room daily and to make sure that my (twin) brother is served meals 3 times a day. It is all getting too much and I yearn to be free. All I want is to be free. I even have to ask permission to go out, my mother feels that going shopping for more than 2 hours is "common", and I am not allowed out in the evenings or to drink alcohol or to talk to guys...basically I am trapped in this nightmare...I have told her that i feel as if she doesn't really care about me but then she starts going on about how much both her and my father do for me, referring to the money she gives me..which can on occasion be a lot and which I am unfortunately getting used to now. Should I carry out my plan of cutting ties with them?for freedom?? Do the advantages outweigh the disadvantages?/bearing in mind that I have tried toreason with them but to no avail..thanksfrustrated, 17
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clarify myself further, I do not want to join the army, I want to get my degree, I am wondering if it will be realistic to expect to deal with the workload from uni and a separate job and still have enough money??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2006): If you want to get away from home and family but still have some security, join the military (at least in the USA it is a good option for many in your situation). If joining the military isn't for you, then ask yourself if you will be willing to work at the jobs/wages available to yourself. Actually, why not secure this job before leaving home? So, to answer your question; yes, you should be able to make it as you are old enough to have a job. The question now is whether you want freedom from home/family enough to work for it. Good luck!
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