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writes:I am planning on talking to my ex-boyfriend to let him know I am still in love with him. We have been apart for almost 4 months now and have stayed in touch through e-mail, phone and weekly visits (I even went away to his cottage with him and his friends for the long weekend and we slept in the same bed). We have been intimate but that stopped about a month ago...not due to any particular reason, it just hasn't happened. Anyway, I want to tell him that I still have feelings for him and need some advice on how to do this. I feel like now is a very good time to do it because he has just finished school and has a month off before he goes back and now has time to think about other things. I want to mention the fact that I have read books on understanding men and women and I feel like I will be more understanding of him and his situations. I also feel like I cannot be friends with him if he decides we cannot give our relationship another chance. Any suggestions on how to start this conversation and what to say?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 If I were you, I would go straight to the point. I think you should tell him exactly what you feel and what you want from him. Ask him to give you an answer, but, don't let him know you would not accept being friends. Let him tell you exactly what he thinks, and act on that.
You mention you've been reading books and feel you'll be "more understanding of him and his situations". I may be wrong, but it seems to me that he dumped you and you want to prove him you will be well worth a try. In case he accepts the relationship again, see if he is thinking about being more understanding with YOU and YOUR situations. I'm pretty sure that you're not the only one to blame in the ending of the relationship. If you two are together again, both will have to work to make it happen.
Take care, madam.
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