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writes:i'm 17 and a guy i really like 19. i only known him a month and met him twice but talk him a lot. last week i was really upset because a family member is terminally ill. and he said i will give you cuddle when see ya but when i saw him 3 days later at his flat we was in his bedroom watching tv and he said come here but i didnt wanna hug him so he just sat back down. he dont have many mates here and today he asked me if i wanted go his flat tomorrow to watch a film with him and we can cuddle up and watch it. this morning he said shame u not here because i could do with a really nice cuddle.my best mate said he likes me as more than a mate but i aint too sure. i ONLY want to be mates with him but my friends are telling me he wants be more. does he? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Yes he does like you a lot more than a friend. I think you need to be clear to him that you only want friendship and nothing more. Put him straight and let him know that there is no chance that you and him will get together. Dont go back to his flat either as this might appear to him that you are wanting more than friendship as well. Be a friend to him but keep him at arms length. Try not to be alone with him maybe go out in groups. You say he doesnt have many friends so try and get him involved in your group of friends and see how that goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2011): Yes he does want more.
It's up to you to not lead him on OP, so no more cuddles at all, even of he says he's okay with that and he doesn't want more, he'll just be lying and hoping you'll change your mind in the future.
No more cuddles, no flirting or anything like that. Make it clear your not interested by telling him but you have to back up your words with actions too or he'll still think there's hope. No more physical affection, if you want cuddles go to your girlfriends.
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