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36-40,
*cb2011
writes:Hi i am 29 yr old.. i met a girl over internet 2 year back and became close to her . she confessed me about her past relation ,that time her ex bf had ditched her.we became very good friends and spent more time to get to know each other. gradually i liked her candid attitude and i developed feelings for her.she also reciprocated my love.but after few months her ex bf again tried to get into her life .she was so confused and asked me for suggestion.i told her its her life and she has to take decission .if she wants to go back to her ex bf then its ok i am always ready to accept the truth .i know it will hurt me but i always wanted her to be happy.after 1 year her parents fixed a guy for her to get married but she wasn't ready.she even tried to contact her ex bf and proposed him to marry her.but her ex didn't show any interest. she was totally confused what to do .one day she left her parents home and came to my city .i arranged all accomodation and fixed a good job for her.since she is all alone in this city , i care for her all time .she was happy with me , we spent time together . meanwhile her ex bf again started calling her . she started responding to his ph calls .i used to talk to her every night but now a days she talks to her ex bf . now she has started ignoring me .now she doesn't talk to me that much. whenever she meets me she behaves like a formal friend.it hurts me a lot . even if i think to stop talking to her but i cant do this because she is alone here .sometimes i am hurted so badly that i dont go to meet her . but next day i have to call her and meet her because if she needs any help there are nobody to help her .her ex bf lives in a different town.i am in such a situation that i cant stay away from her neither i can be with her . i care for her a lot. i love her soo much . what should i do please help me...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I agree here. She doesnt want to be with you, her heart lies with her ex boyfriend. She was so cold to cut you out just because her ex boyfriend got back in contact and I have a funny feeling this ex of hers is going to keep hurting her and she will keep running back to you for comfort and then you will keep getting hurt. She is not your responsibilty. You shouldnt feel guilty that she is all alone she is the one that stopped making contact with you. Dont let her use you like that. Try and get her out of your mind. Go out and socialize meet new girls and find a girl that will care for you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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reader, krit +, writes (12 May 2011):
 You were a rebound for her. She doesn't have ANY true feelings for you. So you were much more like pillow to fall upon when she was badly hurt and dumped by her ex. Rebound relationships NEVER work. If you care for her then you can continue being her friend but don't give her the royal treatment which you would love to give your girlfriend. So the best way to move on is to continue dating other girls. Trust me, it takes much less effort in finding and attracting a new girl than to convience the one who has feelings for some other guy. Step Outside your comfort zone and hunt for the girl who genuinely cares for you.
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