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26-29,
*ricamae414
writes:I have an ex boyfriend and i'm over him, but he's not over me. I still want to be friends with him, but he always seems to bring up our past relationship, and how he wants me back. How do i tell him that i want to be friends but not together anymore?
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reader, shiza  +, writes (30 December 2010):
hi dear. i think dear Jilly has rightly answered ur question . just keep space but dont turn cold towards him. as time will pass he himself will ask you only for friendship.
all the best.
shiza
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): Ah the 'friends thing ' is difficult with an ex, especially as this boy still has lots of feelings for you, and whilst he has these feelings beyond friendship, you will not be able to hang out, be friends without him trying to get back with you.
It's easier for you, because you have already moved away from him emotionally, so for you, being friends is not hard, but what we have to try to remember some times, the one who still has feelings ( your ex) needs time and space FIRST to heal a bit, move their emotions on from you before a real friendship can be put in motion. If you've not split very long, just give him time away from you, doesn't mean you have to cold, but it does mean he needs space to accept, get used to, get over being with you, and whilst you see him on a regular basis, he can't move on to a stage, where friends is comfortable for him.
Time is needed on this one for him I'm afraid...as you're already free, as I say, just give him some time move on before being friends that hang out.
Good luck!
Jilly
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