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writes:I have this fear of giving a blow job to my boyfriend of 6 years. I don't mind giving oral sex, but as soon as he puts it in my mouth I feel the need to gag. He has a very large penis and if he has just had a shower I don't mind as much. he doesn't have bad hygine, but i'm funny about things being clean. He said he would like me to perform oral more often to him, like he does to me. But how can I give him head without my panic reaction that he's going to come??I hate the taste, even of pre cum, even with a condom on, my mouth gets numb. Then I just get really bored. Is this weird?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): Maybe you're not thinking about it right. Do you realize how much pleasure youre giving him? It's like having ultimate power: YOU can bring him to trembling and gasping with pleasure. YOU have that ability. It's very gratifying, and I really find that arousing.
If his cum tastes bad, tell him to masturbate more. It "clears the pipes" if you will. This will freshen him up.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Practice!! The gag reflex gets better over time, and different things work with different people. I had a strong gag at first, but I really wanted to please my boyfriend in that way. I kept practicing and I've gotten a lot better. A position I use is me, lying on my back on the bed with my head laying over the ledge, stretched back fully. He then stands and inserts himslef. For some reason that angle makes the gag virtually disappear, but it may not work for you!! Be warned, be cautious, be careful when you try it.
If you're just not into oral, then have him stop giving it to you too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): My recent ex gave me oral maybe ten times in over three years. I was sad, certainly, but what matters if that you make your guy feel loved and attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): One other thing you might want to try is to make sure that you're always in a position where you can move your head. I have a strong gag reflex, too, and the thought that I might not be able to back off if it gets too bad can throw me into a panic. When I'm in control of how far into my mouth he goes, I'm more relaxed and can concentrate better on him (instead of worrying about choking). Have him lie on his back, and insist that he put his hands anywhere but on the back of your head. If the reflex gets too strong you can back off and take a couple of breaths. Just remember to keep stimulating him with your hand or your breasts, or start licking the length of his penis, if you need a breather.Finally, you might need to work up to a full-scale bj. Start off by incorporating oral stimulation (of him) into your foreplay; then spend more time on the oral foreplay every time you do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Replace the oral with roleplay or anal or lingerie or just a different position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): make it up in other ways and be sure he still feels sexually desired. Replace the oral with roleplay or anal or lingerie or just a different position
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): The three magic words: Antiseptic Throat Lozenges!!! (they numb that gag reflex)
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reader, Illithid +, writes (22 January 2011):
 I'm a guy who's had girlfriends that just couldn't give oral. My recent ex gave me oral maybe ten times in over three years. I was sad, certainly, but what matters if that you make your guy feel loved and attractive. If you can't suck, ok then. But make it up in other ways and be sure he still feels sexually desired. Replace the oral with roleplay or anal or lingerie or just a different position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): My ex gave great BJ's up until I started oozing pre cum. She hated the taste something fierce. Swallowing it, forget it. What she would do since she knew I loved oral is continue by licking and using her lips on the sides while jerking it. Somtimes she did this even as I was coming and it was almost as good as coming in her mouth. Sometimes she would also get it good and wet with saliva and jerk with one hand while cupping her palm over the head...felt a LOT like a regular BJ.His size may have something to do with it too. Not abnormal at all. But do try what you can. Men love oral and it would be a shame for you to stop. But if you dont like it, don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): No, it's not weird, some people just don't enjoy performing oral sex.
If you have this much trouble with it you shouldn't feel that you have to do it. If you don't enjoy it tell your boyfriend.
There are plenty of other things you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): If it were me I would get some kind of edible lubrication cream.....That way you wont have the taste....And to try not to think about it put some sexy music on that way you get into kind of a groove, and you wont be so bored...I hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): My exgirlfriend solved it with some mints, but if you are uncomfortable doing it then don't sex should be fun and tasteful not something you hate or some that's making you sick
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