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writes: Hey, I need some guidance.Me and my boyfriend, well sex between us tends to be tough. A few weeks ago, we were going at it, and my parents were in the next room, and this made me uncomfortable, and he started hitting at a bad angle, and I was going to tell him to stop, but he covered my mouth, to keep me quiet. And he started saying that I was a slut and everything. And we normally do this, it's fine, I normally like it. But this time, it was some serious bad timing. And I started crying. And he stopped.I know he meant no harm, but I still feel odd. My sex drive has completely died, the thought of having sex again disgusts me, I don't even like the thought of being touched by any one. And i've kind of preferred being alone, when i'm normally a social person.I don't know what to do, I know he meant no harm, but I still feel weird.Help?
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (23 April 2011):
The "slut" thing is understandable if you two had previously enjoyed the dirty talk...I'm more concerned that he covered your mouth and didn't stop when you asked him to. It is good he stopped when he saw you were crying. If he's otherwise a great guy, try to take it slow with him and let it go. AFTER you have a talk with him, and remind him that anytime you say stop that means STOP. But if he is controlling or mean to you otherwise, I would take this as a huge red flag and run. Good luck sweety :)
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (23 April 2011):
I'm rather alarmed he covered your mouth when you told him to stop and that he also called you a slut. That's not nice at all. But then again, when you started crying he stopped, which is good.
You need to talk with your bf, and not during sex, because during sex, men don't listen - all they wanna do is cum. Tell him when it hurts and if he cares for you at all, he'll listen and make things better for you.
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