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writes:MODS NOTE: I've removed a few bits as it was TMI, and not relevant to the question.So about 3 years ago, this guy(who's younger than me by 2 yrs) moved in right next door. Since the first day we met, we became great friends. Since the past year we got a bit closer 2 each other and some of our friends would ask if we were going out. I did like him a lot, but I just didnt really understand my feelings and always covered it up by goin, 'ya right.' the thing is, he liked me also, because once when we were alone, he tried to kiss me. I was just so surprised, that I said 'ew' (because i couldnt think of anything to say) and that was the end of it. he later moved to a different county and i really regretted not kissing him, so I was planning on telling him that i love him whenever he visited, but of course i never got the courage to. Later I had a weird situation where one of my friends who I normally dont talk 2 much asked me out. My friend later told me that my guy friend in school likes me, so I decided to try it out because I kinda like him. Well later the ex-neighbor, broke up w/his gf, found out that I had a bf and was hurt, but still flirted w/me. I decided 2 tell him before he went 2 visit another country (where some of his family lives) during the summer, that I still loved him, but again was too afraid. Well he moved back to that country and now I found out that he has a gf and seems really in love w/her. I realized that I messed up a whole lot and that I truly did love him, but didnt understand my feelings until he moved. I know now that I should just move on and be a good gf to my bf now, but my heart just cant let go. So what should I do? Any advice, or am I too screwed up to be fixed? btw sorry this is so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): i read this cause believe it or not im in the same situation except im the one who left (for college). It's a lot easier to tell you to go tell him! but i would be giving you hypercritical advice seeing as I can't do it either. Im too scared. but I got to thinking and i'd rather go through the terrifying and possibly awkward conversation of telling him when I go home to visit then be stuck wondering 5 or 10 years later "what if?" ya know? so im going to do it please tell me if you do it too! also try to keep hollywood endings out theres nothing worse then building yourself up to be let down. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, TalonZurfluh  +, writes (23 August 2010):
talk to him. tell him how you felt about him all this time, and all your stories of being afraid to tell him. tell him EVERYTHING youve ever wanted to tell him. you might have to move on, but not without telling him the truth. the one thing you should do is tell him though, itd probly get a huge load off your chest. plz msg me about this, i would love to know how it goes
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