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writes:Hi everyone.I've got a confusing situation, rather situations, on my hands. I have had feelings for the same woman for the past five years, and eventually came clean to her, and admitted everything. She took it well at first, but our friendship ended. I didn't speak to her for months, but bumped into her a few weeks back. Amazingly, I didn't feel those same feelings for her anymore, but still hurt at the fact that we will never be the same as we used to be. We've really gone two separate ways at this stage. So where's the problem you may ask? Well I never felt like that for any other woman except her, so I believed it to be nothing more than a crush... That I wasn't gay.I was just getting back on track when....Another woman whom I only briefly met once through a friend some months back, has admitted to my friend that she is gay. Since hearing it from my friend, I cannot stop thinking about her. How can it be? I met her ONCE, and yet I feel like I want to see her again. I really don't know what to think, and it's not that I would mind if I was gay, in fact I could accept that, once I was happy in any kind of relationship.I know that I'll meet this woman again in a few weeks, through our mutual friend, so should I do anything?Please help or advise.Many Thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): Hi. I wouldnt get in a fizz about it. You might just be curious and not gay at all. Who knows. When you see her try having a chat to her about how you feel. She may have gone through the some sort of confusion that you have now. Just dont worry x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): Well how do you really feel, like are you attracted emotionally or sexually? If it were sexually then I would say you were probably bi - curious for now. Have you ever thought about having sex with a woman? Or is it more like an emotional attraction where you could see yourself living your life happily as a lesbian? Either way you aren't completly sure yet. I'm not telling you to make a move on this woman, but it's true that you never know what you want until you've tried it. I had the same problem when I was younger. When I was 10 I'd always find myself checking out the girls at school, but I never really knew why, and never thought that it was different. As I got older, I enjoyed having sex with men, but still found that I was also attracted to women. I wondered if I could ever be with a woman in a permanent relationship. One day the oppertunity came and my lady friend and I became intimate. Once I experienced it I knew I was bisexual and could go both ways in a relationship. To me gender isn't all that important. I find that as long as two people love each other and are happy then its perfectly fine. Love is love, be you man, woman, transexual, transgender, or hermaphradite. That's how I look at it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Just relax and see how things will work out when you meet.As long as you are happy ,it does not matter whether you have gay tendencies or not.
Just follow your heart.
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