A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: Can I ask a question about blokes, I mean I have always thought if a guy likes you he will ask you out proper but guys never ask me out they always offer one-offs, my friends keep saying that's what blokes do now, they don't want to commit to going out on dates but if they like you they will have a bit of "fun" and then you can just see where it goes, is this right? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Men have always wanted free no-commitment sex for thousands of years. The only difference is that lately a higher percentage of women are letting them have it.
But stereotypes are never absolutes. There are a number of guys who just want a real GF. Yes, even young teenage & college-age guys. The lying players just make more noise and get more press than the regular decent guys.
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male
reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (13 May 2009):
You thinking is spot on and kudos to you for maintaining your virtuous sensibilities.
The next time one of those chaps gets dodgy with his question, tell him "I am a lady and only date gentlemen with the sense to ask me out on a proper date!" or something like that!
Understand however, in this day and age, a man will ask a woman out for coffee or dessert, an event that is intentionally meant to be short. This is a matter or training, or rather intent for both parties sake.
If there is chemistry, you will know and can decide to meet again. If there isn't chemistry, well it is only coffee or dessert and just about anyone can drum up enough small talk to get through the meeting.
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