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writes:I'm in my fourth serious relationship now and I'm only 19. However this relationship isn't different to any other, I'm so so happy, he's 22 and I love him with all my heart, we have such a laugh and we connect so well and what's even better is that as he's a bit older he's more mature than my ex boyfriends and I can trust him and open up to him a lot more.However I feel there is something wrong with me :( no matter how much I love him I still get mad at him over stupid things, really stupid things - like if he doesn't text me to say goodnight? I am under a lot of stress at the moment and keep hoping that's the reason I'm acting odd, but it's frustrating knowing that I need to stop being mean to him but no matter how hard I try I can't do it.He's so understanding and never gets mad at me, he tells me everything will be ok when everything else in my life gets sorted I'll go back to being happy and bubbly but I'm scared I'm pushing him away.I know he still loves me, he tells me every day, but I've been at this point in relationships before - when you feel something isn't quite right. I really don't want to lose him but I don't know what to do?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (20 January 2009):
 I know this is an awful thing to say and I imagine you will not want to believe it but its your age that is making you feel restless at this point in your relationship.
I felt the exact same thing in all of my relationships (I have been in and out of long term relationships since the age of 15 and I'm now 21). All of my relationships ended because I felt there was something not right or something missing, when in reality these guys were fantastic and treated me like any girl would wish for.
If you really love him and feel that he is different than your ex's then you need to push your doubts to the back of your mind and concentrate on moving forwards in your relationship. I know its hard but you will regret it if you end things now.
You just need to focus on how wonderful your guy is, how happy he makes you and your future together. The longer you stay with him the more these feelings will disappear and you wont worry so much anymore.
Your only other option is to be on your own for a while and mature so in a few years time you will be able to be in a relationship without getting these feelings.
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