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writes:Hi everyone :) So I've been having exams and been super busy.. And my boyfriend asked if I could go out for a movie date with him after our exams end. And here's the issue : I don't know how to not let my parents find out. Truth is I told my parents that I liked this boy and that he liked me too. And well they immediately jump into this olden ways of thinking that all guys just wanna get into you pants or smtg. But I've known him for quite sometime and we were actually like the bestest of friends. My parents are overprotective. And well they wouldn't even let me walk to the cinema to meet my friends, they'll follow me to the spot and wait til my friends come. To be honest, it's quite embarrassing cuz ALL my friends' get dropped off and They walk on their own. My parents treat me as if I'm not capable of doing such things.. And tbh it's my last few months in high school and my bf has only a few months before he leaves to another country to study. So the least I can do is just go out with him after this exam. And I've disappointed him in the past about movie dates Cuz of my parents and well it makes me feel really bad. So PLS help meeee!!! I'll answer any questions if needed :) I know that sneaking isn't that good but just this once I need to do this. And honestly I've been like this goody two shoes forever and my grades are all well kept up and I have other responsibilities that I keep and my parents are aware of that. So help meee... Btw I'm Chinese and my parents have that kind of Chinese thinking tbh... So it's hardddd Reply to this Question
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reader, Sincerely Yours  +, writes (13 January 2015):
 When I was a youngster in my senior year, my boyfriend was going to leave for basic training and I wanted to sneak out with him as well, so I did. When I was caught, I was okay with it. I let my mom know that the consequences were considered before i acted, and I had decided they would be worth it for that was last day with him.
The choice is yours and here are the facts:
Your parents might or might not find out. Whether they do or not, your decisions have consequences. It is your choice to accept those possible repercussions and to act accordingly.
As for how to sneak out, I cannot offer you that advice. You need to be safe and be sure not to get into a situation in which you can be hurt.
Remember also that your parents are protective for a reason. After all, you are very young, (13-15?), and movies are not the most important things in life.
But you do what you feel you need to do.
~SY
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (13 January 2015):
 Unfortunately, it would be naive to think it's not common for boys at your age to only want to "get in your pants or smtg".
We can't tell you how to sneak around your parents because it goes against our morals for it. Your parents only want you to be safe and sneaking around wouldn't be safe.
I'm sorry, but maybe you could make it a group thing and sit next to your boyfriend in the cinema.
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