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writes:Long story, short: Tomorrow night I'm going to Buffalo Wild Wings to hang out with a bunch of friends. These friends include a guy I've had my eye on for a while. And pretty much everyone hanging out tomorrow night knows about my "crush" on this guy... except for him. At least, as far as I'm aware.Short story, long: He and I met junior year of high school. I was with someone else at the time. The guy I'm talking about and I dated for about two months when my ex and I were on a "break". Now it's been two years almost literally to the day since that whole thing happened. We're both 20, both single, and both in our friends' wedding party. (Which I find interesting as I was looking through this site earlier and saw a few questions about people being in wedding parties but nothing pertaining to my situation.)Back to my story: There will be at least four guys and three girls hanging out tomorrow night. The guy I like is pretty social and his friends are just weirdos (but it's cool, I think they're hilarious and really nice and very smart, too). They're all a bunch of nerds, though (which is my type of guy). And the girls are usually talking about the wedding coming up. The bride, who will be there this time as moral support for me when it comes to the guy I like, said it's really awkward now that her fiance (another friend of mine) is in Texas for basic (Air Force guy).I'm pretty social myself but only around people who are nice to me and basically are close to me. I'm also pretty funny (mostly due to extreme sarcasm and just acting retarded sometimes). My downfall? I also get nervous/flustered... ridiculously easily. I think it's a stress thing but I really can't screw this up tomorrow night. I've been waiting to make a fantastic "comeback" impression on this guy since he and I broke up two years ago. I want to look hot and awesome, and just make him take a quintuplet take on me. He's truly the funny guy of the group (he's made people cry from laughing so hard) and such a perv (lol) but honestly, I wouldn't have him any other way.I know that when I show up, I'm bound to make a fool of myself because that's just the way I am around guys I find outrageously hot. Believe me, I wish I had a ton more confidence when it comes to guys but I suck at it. I'm basically a nerdy girl myself and it shows... a lot; especially when someone brings up Harry Potter. Unfortunately, the guy isn't an HP buff but when we were together, he completely respected the fact that I'm into the series because he's also into magic-fiction. He's a Math and Science nerd whereas I'm more into English and History.My nervous habits? I blush furiously and my hands get uber stiff, I end up with the knee-jerk urge to use the bathroom and I stumble over my words like crazy. I told my bride friend to like pinch my arm or something if I start to sound or look like an idiot and she said she'd comply. Like I said, I really can not screw this up. So basically... I'm wondering... what I should about this? This whole thing?
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Hun, just be yourself and dont drink any alcohol for confidence.
There is no quick fix for you, either he will like you or he wont!
Good Luck and let us know how it goes!
Honeygirl
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