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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:HeySo it has been almost year since me and my ex broke up. It was due to his family issues (me not being same religion,wanted to get married,while his father was against it ... etc). We loved each other, I know that.Anyway .. he is with another woman since the break up and I do beleive, he was with her week before we even broke up. He knew her from the past, but he go closer to her on his vocation in Europe where he met her again and somethign happened between them. Than he came back home, was with me for about a week and than he left me. I was devastated ... PRoblem isI can stop loving him, I cant stop thinking about him. I cant find anyone, I hate men ... the only person I want is him. And it scares me, cause I really dont wantto be alone, but I dont know what ot do.I get horrible depressions ... I cry myself to sleep couple of times a week, I think of him every possible minute during the day and I am becoming seriously crazy !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just dont know waht to do.We are in NO contact, We don see each other, We do not talk or text ... ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT. I moved away, I changed jobs and friends .. I ahve completely different life w different people, but its still not enough. I went on 30 dates already and nothing have worked out ... I hated all of them. I dont know what to do anymore ... Can someoen please help me or I will go crazy !!!Thank you ton
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): Awe sounds like you are trying your best. But at the same time it does not sound like you have been able to get over the past. You have to accept the past and move on and realize that you are living in the present. I've said somethings like this in a lot of answers so I will say it here again.
Reliving the pain of your life is a choice you make yourself, you drag 'unresolved issues' from the past into the present only to relive them again. Often enough because you cannot understand or accept what happened, and hope that this endless series of reliving it, will somehow lead to some form of understanding or acceptance in the future. So begin to bring your awareness into NOW and stay there as much as possible. The past is over, the future is not yet. Be present in the Present and deal with what you find thére.
I hope this helps a little bit...if it doesn't tell us and we'll try to help again.
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