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writes:can sombody please tell how to find the strength to get away from my boyfriend he has alot of issues first of all he has a drug addiction that makes him crazy he and besides that he has mental issues i think hes skizophenic and he has made a appointment to get help for that. the thing is hes not physically abusive although he has been in the past. its mostly that he gets "high" and he thinks crazy things i mean off the wall things if i told you you wouldnt believe me so ill leave that alone. hes driving me crazy and the bad thing is ive been with this man 5 years and 4 of them was shear torcher. he thinks im cheating on him all the time and people tell me thats insecurity and guilt and i no this the thing is i do believe hes cheating on me all the time but then again people tell me that the thought of him cheating comes from him not being around all the time. which is becuz of the drug now if never done a drug in my life and the whole time weve been together ive never cheated on him not even once. im just getting to the point it i think this relationship is never going to work. im 6 months pregnant with his child and he also doesnt believe the child is his. im only in my early 20s ind hes in his late 30s. can somebody please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, squirshy  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 hi. i read your question and it sounded like something that happened very recently in my life im now 23 when i was 17 i met my ex partner... we broke up in february after 5 and half years of torture.. when i met himself he heavily smoked cannabis and took a lot of heavier drugs at the weekend.. i myself never went near them...but my advice to u would lose this loser and let him wallow in his drug pit cause if your pregnant and hes doin that sort of stuff wats gonna happen to your baby?? that will definetly not be healthy. you need to be a mother and get yourself out of this unhealthy farce!!as for the sleepin around. you should be very careful that u dont catch anything as if my past experience with drugs in my life he probably has and got knows with sort of women either if thats the crowd he hangs around it..get away from him and enjoy motherhood with your new lil baby in a happy, healthy, drug free home. you'll be happier than you'v ever been...please feel free to chat to me anytime :)
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (26 July 2008):
U need to slowly distant ur self first. Maybe start by not seeing him so much then next the phone calls. Then it will be easy 4 u cause you will c how differnt ur life is without him stressing you out and stuff. It will be hard cause he might try and blame you. Tell you he needs you....just stay strong! Keep busy hang with friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): The answer lies in you, learn to love yourself and you won't want to be with anyone that treats you with anything less than a loving heart. One of the easiest exercises to facilitate this is this :Find a picture of you when you were a small child. An innocent child. For those with early childhood sexual abuse issues, do not mistake this abuse for a lack of innocence. You were absolutely innocent. It will be hard to derive the full value from this exercise without an actual picture, and so, if it is just a matter of needing to find one...wait. Wait until you have the picture in your hand. If such a picture does not exist, try envisioning a moment in your life when you were 3, 4...perhaps 5 years old--but only do this as a last resort. The power of this exercise lays in your ability to look into the eyes of your own innocence--something that is just too hard to do through memory alone. Now, with the picture in hand, look into that child's eyes. Feel his/her innocence. How vulnerable you were. How trusting. Recognize the desire for little more than love, compassion, teaching and support. Think of the trauma that child has faced throughout his/her life. Think of the times when he/she has felt alone. Confused. If you feel like it, cry for this child. Allow yourself to feel love for this child. Do whatever you must to emotionally connect to this child because it is for this child that you are now reclaiming your life. It is this child who has lost its way, and you are the one now showing the courage to guide it back to health.
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