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writes: HiThere's a girl I really fancy who goes to the same gym as I do and I have no idea how I can make contact with her. I see her there every friday and she seems really nice. I liked her from the first moment I saw her(over a year ago now)and I think she likes me too because I've seen her looking at me a few times. The problem is that theres a ladies only part to our gym and she pretty much spends all her gym time in that section. She comes in, uses a treadmill in the main section of the gym for a few minutes, and then heads off to the ladies gym for the rest of her session. This leaves me with no real opportunity to strike up a conversation with her. She seems very shy aswell so I dont think she'll ever approach me. So I'll have to approach her, which I dont mind, but I have no way of getting around the problem of her going into the ladies gym section. Plus even if I did approach her what could I say? Its a gym, I'd come across as weird just walking up to a girl I dont know and trying to talk to her. Should I just forget about it? I mean when it comes right down to it if she was really interested in me she'd make herself available wouldnt she? Plus, she could already have a boyfriend. Anyway, does anybody have any ideas? I'd really appreciate some advice.Thanks
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reader, mytwocents  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 There's no such place as a bad place to meet someone. Don't let anyone tell you that. I've known people that have met at the post office, at a funeral, even while driving in traffic. The gym is way normal--just don't be sleazy or creepy.Whatever you do, don't be lame and ask her if she has a boyfriend. That's a sure way to ruin the thing before it even starts. It'll make everyone uncomforable whether the answer is yes OR no. You have a small window while she's at the treadmill, but that's more than enough. Don't prepare any remarks. Say whatever, so it sounds natural. Tell her you have something in your eye and you keep looking in the mirror and can’t find it and ask if she can help. Tell her she's using your lucky treadmill and if you can switch with her. Say ANYTHING! Then take it from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): You will (ull) never know if she has a boyfriend unless u confront her. try to catch her on her way in or her way out before she leaves. its very hard to approach someone. simple go up to her, introduce yourself, tell her youve noticed her at the gym a couple of times, and tell her u were wondering if she was seeing anyone....
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 She could have a boyfriend, the way she acts sounds as if she does! I wouldn't try to talk to her, the gym is not a place to hook-up! X
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reader, Undisclosed  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 No, you shouldn't forget about it.No, you don't have to wait for her to make herself available.No, you don't care if she has a boyfriend yet.Just go use the treadmill alongside her. Ask her if she's training for any marathons this summer.If YES, ask questions and take the conversation from there...If NO, tell her you assumed she was because she looked so focused. Get her to laugh. Talk about "good intentions" when it comes to exercise and take the conversation from there...The boyfriend test (to be dropped in convo): "Oh yea, my friend's always laughing at her boyfriend because he does exactly that..." keep dropping that same word in reference to your friends until she reciprocate with "Yea, my boyfriend..." or remains silent every time.Take care.
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