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writes: I've come to the point in a relationship where something feels... off. I can't shake off this feeling and I think I need to end the relationship. I have a class with him though, and I don't know how to break it to him without the rest of the semester being horrible. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, lildeesbg  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 There is no easy way to break it off. If you feel things arent right you need to stop it now before you get any deeper into this relationship which will only make it harder to end. Honestly, if YOUR not happy then who cares what class hes in, where he lives...etc. You gotta do something that feel right for you.
My only real advice is to end it as nicely as you can. Just be aware of his feelings so if things hit the fan at least you can say you handled it maturely. However, if your worried about his actions that might effect your semester DONT. You did what you had to do, so who cares what he has to say. IF your worried about missing him and making a wrong decision then you need to really weigh the options. What is making you feel as if something is off?...Are you happy when your with him?...Is he a positive thing in your life?. Think of all the things that are important to you and see how you answer it. No matter what you will feel a loss once you end things. But if it was something you didnt want you will recover quickly!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Hi there, sounds like a tough one.If you truly feel its the end with him, then its important to end it as soon as possible because its not good for you and its not fair for him to lead him on. But as you say it might become awkward for the rest of the semester, so its important to decide how you will end it first. I know a lot of people say there is never a good way to break up but there are better ways than some!You could try to end things in a mature way, just you two, not in public, sitting together and talking rationally about what went wrong.You never know perhaps he will agree with things being "off" and this will become a mutual break up. If he does not undertand make sure you explain and say how you do not want to hurt him and you want to be friends. If he reacts in a bad way and doesnt want to speak to you, then you still did your best and respected him, then its his semester that will suck not yours. If he is mature he will hopefully understand and will be able to be friends. It is not clear how long you two have been together as this is a factor as well.
Good luck!
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reader, becca78  +, writes (18 September 2007):
I was in a similar situation a few years back, he'd broken up with me so I had no choice, I wasn't going to let my education suffer because of it. In the class we had together, I sat away from him with other people I knew and tried to make the situation as painless as possible for both of us. If he's sensible about the break up it should be ok
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