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writes:How do I get a boyfriend? I'm lonely on Valentine's Day and I want to have someone to talk to and be in a relationship with. I want some pone who is like me and enjoys my hobbies. Do you have any tips or tricks to seem more open and approachable to guys. Also do you have any tips on how to get a good boyfriend (one that doesn't cheat,only want you for sex,etc. ) thank you ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (16 February 2018):
 It's absolutely fine to have friends of the opposite gender at your age, SO LONG AS IT'S FULLY AND ONLY PLATONIC.
It can, for many a teen, be quite hard, to remain fully platonic, if/when they find a guy/girl whom they really like and/or are really keen on.
At your age, it's quite common to react, before really thinking things through.
This too, is normal, because it's the raging hormones at play, during the teen years.
For now, you're way too young to completely get/understand what i'm saying and where i'm coming from, but in all seriousness, if anything adverse, were to come out of what was initially only supposed to only be a simple friendship, you would be potentially destroying the rest of your life.
As you're between 13 and 15 years of age, i would strongly advise you to not waste your time with boys at this stage of your life and focus on what's truly most important.
Your education.
Have you informed your parents, of what you've shared with us?
If not, i do think you should.
There will be plenty of time in your future for boys and boyfriends.
For now, try not to complicate your young life, by introducing boys into the equation.
You may have the best intent, but seriously, you cannot guarantee that the young man will carry the very same best intent.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 February 2018):
 You get a boyfriend from meeting people, getting to know them and seeing if you both have anything in common. Now you are still quite young so don't worry about being in a relationship, but it is okay to meet boys and enjoy dating. Just remember to take things slow and not to get carried away.
It is okay to admit to feeling lonely, but have you no friends or family to hang around with? Am sure you have other single friends who also feel lonely maybe you could all go do something fun at the weekend and see if you can meet new people.
I have no tips or tricks. Just always to be yourself. Never feel forced in to doing something you don't want to do, take your time before anything turns sexual and always make sure you are safe. There is no way of knowing will a man hurt us, same for men with women. Unfortunately there are people out there who lie and cheat and use there partner. Sometimes we get our heart broken once or twice before we meet mr right.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (15 February 2018):
Your indicated age is 13-15. Here are the tips on where you should be spending your time and energy, in decreasing order of importance -
1. Scholastic achievement.
2. Scholastic achievement.
3. Scholastic achievement.
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4. Athletic endeavours
5. General fitness
6. School activities
7. Social interaction
8. Family issues
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9. A boyfriend
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (15 February 2018):
 There used to be a saying about having to kiss a lot of frogs before you found your prince ..... I am not advocating kissing a lot of boys but rather to be friendly and aware of non verbal communication, so when in a group try not to cross your arms for example, I am sure you could find other body language tips online.
If you do come across a boy whose prime aim is to have sex just tell him no thanks and move on to the next one. Same deal if you DO have a boyfriend and he cheats, just let him know that isn't what you wanted from a relationship and walk away, leaving him behind.
And while its difficult at your age to not be friends with an ex (smaller social circles and school, sports shopping etc activities mean you will see them here and there), you can be civil without being best buddy buddies.
Sometimes its difficult to just go out and find a boyfriend, but if you remain open and friendly(read approachable) your circle will widen and the wider your circle the greater the scope to find a boyfriend.
Patience and good luck.
PS don't forget, any boy who says if you really loved him you would let him do this that or the other is not a decent boy but one trying to manipulate you into doing what HE wants, that sort of boy doesn't respect you, and once he gets what he wants he will move onto the next girl.
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