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writes:Hi - I need advise on how to pluck up the courage to dump my boyfriend. He is a rebound relationship that has moved too fast too quickly and now he wants more than I can give him. I need to be on my own at the moment to sort my head out and move on, I never had time to grieve over my ex. My boyfriend thinks the world of me and is convinced we are made for each other. I need to end things but I don't want to break his heart, what can I say to sound fair and make him understand that I never meant for this?
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 You might also tell him that things are just moving too fast for you and you do love him, but not with all of your heart. That chances are had you met him first, things would be much different. But you have no control over your heart and emotions and it wouldn't be fair to either of you to give only part of yourself since you haven't got over the last man. Remaining friends is not easy for the one who loves the most and wants more than the other. They always expect things will change. Perhaps later you might feel the proper feelings for this man, but he has to give you a lot of space for now? Good luck.
I was in a similar situation. The man I have yet to get over thought he was over his ex when we got together but a couple months later, I realized he was still in love with her. She returned to town about a year later and they remained friends and never knew about me and A.
This was few years ago. He never did love me. But they are just friends now and he finally got over her.
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