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writes:I posted this question a few months ago, now i really need your feedback on what action to take, if any, to get my ex to leave me alone.Update: I received another email from him on xmas eve. it was not threatening, but he went over our relationship again. i broke down because of the painful and haunting memories. i wish he would just disappear off the face of the planet. i dont trust him at all, anything he says is not true, now i know who he really is and want nothing to do with him. he makes me physically and mentally sick. he lives a lie. everything he says or does really means nothing at all. please help. should i go to hr or the cops?my old question:My ex broke up with me about 5 months ago. I found out he started dating a girl a week later and they are still together. I stopped all contacts and explained to him my reasons.He has been sending me emails which I do not respond to. I find the emails very annoying, and they mentally disturb me. He came to my place un-announced and honestly I do not trust him anymore, so I feared for my own safety. I really want this guy off my back because I want to focus on my current relationship which I think is the person I will marry and do not want to mess this one up.I told the ex I will not forgive him, that I am not his friend but he continues to do all that he can to get me to respond to his emails. When I didn't he started to get more aggressive (in my face) in very rude, humiliating, manners.Every time I have to deal with this guy, it brings a lot of rage within me becasue I have no tolerance for this kind of behaviour. He was very manipulative when we were together. Serial cheater and liar. I would never trust anything he says ever again. All his empty marriage, kids, house talk went to the garbage.He just keeps trying and trying and I am not responding but I would like him to stop. I've told him I want nothing to do with him, but he just doesn't get it.Is this harassment? I am on the verge of a breakdown because this guy is a psycho! Any advice will do. Thank you in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): this is an update of what happened after my initial question and before the current question. i have already warned him that i would take it to hr:
we work together at the same company, same floor just different part of the building. i avoid him at all cost, but of course we cross each other's paths sometime. i let these incidents go without any complaint (i put myself in such position and will never do it again).
however, working at the same place, he's got more access to being around me. the past few times we crossed each other's paths, he has gotten right in my face, like 1 inch from my face, in front of people, for me to acknowledge his existence. i sent him an email from work, warning him to back off and leave me alone or i will report him to HR. i told him not to respond. however he blew up in my face (thru the email) but said he would leave me alone. i dont trust him or his words or actions at all but i hope he will finally let me live my life. i know he got upset seeing me happy with my current bf, and he continues to check up on me, but as long as he stays far away and dont contact me, i will be fine!
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