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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost four months now. Before him, I had just got out of a pretty heavy relationship. It was a cycle of breaking up, and going back. Over and over again, for eleven months. so I decided to move on. I erased any emotion, feelings - anything I had for him.I just put it to the back of my mind, even though I was obviously damaged from everything I had gone through. I tried to motivate myself with my new boyfriend. I still have alot that I haven't completely dealt with, but I'm trying so hard to leave the past where it should be. Instead of dwelling on it.My boyfriend and I, have had a pretty happy relationship. I guess I've tried to mold him into the perfect boyfriend. I realize that sometimes my expections are too high, but he says I changed him for the better.I don't really have much to complain about with him, except that I have isolated myself from the world. I get overwhelmed with these feelings, like I want to be single, I want to have fun. I just feel like I can't be in love at the same time. I have no reason to break up with my boyfriend, and I always think of him before myself. I know he really loves me, and if I broke up with him, it would break his heart and I don't wanna be the one to blame.I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel so overwhelmed with everything I'm feeling, and I can't talk about my past with my boyfriend, without making him feel uncomfortable about everything I've gone through.I feel like I want space, I need space. I just need to get out and live a little, but I'm afraid that my boyfriend still won't be waiting around for me when it's all said and done. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Give it a temporary breakup, in other words just remain friends for a while and use this time to focus on your needs. Just take a break, not a. Break up but a break. In time you'll eventually feel. Ready to get back into your relationship. But don't let it drag on to the point he remains permenatly in the friend zone.
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reader, Nik(:  +, writes (6 April 2010):
Wow chicky, that's a tough one! Lucky for you, I'm in the same place! I'm 13, just dumped my bf because we needed space, blah blah blah. Just straight out tell him that you like him, but just as friends. Say you want tp continue to have a thing, but a boy friend is just a little too much. But whatever you do, don't do it in a text!
Good luck(:
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