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writes:Hiya ladies n gents, i got a bit of an embarrassing problem here, well not so much a problem, but here goes anyway lolBasically, i have a amazing sex life with my fella, hes a very unselfish lover and always makes sure im satisfyed! We are very open with each other about what we want and a few days ago we were chatting about our fantasies, things we've never tried ect... He mentioned that he would love to try bondage and be totally dominated, and this is where the problem is, i often fantasize about dominating, but have never actually followed through on it, i am quite self conscious at the best of times and havent a clue where to begin on this one, i WANT to give him something bk he says just me on top is amazing and im alot more confident since we've been together hes always reassuring me and he is defo bringing out the best in me, im just really nervous about this, and i love to be dominated myself so not really sure about having the shoe on the other foot. Also ive only ever been tied up once, wasnt really much but thats the only real experience ive got concerning bondage so any advice please would be hugely appricated :) thank you muchly!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): You're very welcome pet, take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you ladies you've given me a few really good ideas and suggestions to think about xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): Get more info from him on what sort of bondage he's fantasised about, and then make it a reality if you're both up for it. Just a few suggestions here, admittedly based to some degree on my own tastes:
Handcuffs and ankle-shackles are a major turn-on for any submissive guy. There's also every chance he might be dying to receive anal penetration, but he may not be comfortable announcing this out loud, so maybe you could suggest it. Kinky lingerie falls into the same category.
Given that he loves the idea of being tied up and dominated, there's also a smallish chance that at the outermost extreme, he may ultimately thrill to being watched 'taking it' from a man, but that obviously involves introducing a living breathing third party, and would be a huge step not exactly recommended for beginners! There's no evidence from your post that he's that way inclined, but the bondage/domination fantasy does make it significantly more likely.
Take it one step at a time. Good luck, and have fun!
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