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writes:I think I'm depressed. I feel like I can't move forward with my life. I feel physically sick, my heart hurts and I want to cry. I'm 23, I'm unemployed again, through no fault of my own. I'm still living with my parents. My circle of friends keeps getting smaller and smaller. I can't talk to anyone, no one understands or wants to hear what I have to say. I feel trapped. I have all these things I want to do/achieve, but they never happen. Because, if I'm honest, I'm not good enough. I wish I didn't have dreams I wish I could be content. I want to stop having to hide being a smile and feel what it's like to really smile again. I don't know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): hi - you need to see your doctor for your doctor to determine if you are depressed. There are signs of depression and you have accurately described some of those classic signs.Every human being will feel depressed at some point in their lives. it's normal. some times when your situation changes then things get better and your depression will end. Do what you can to make this happen. talk to people who care about you and are not going to judge you. Make a plan that is realistic, and tell someone about it so they can hold you accountable to working on it even when you don't want to. Then eventually things will start to get better and you'll hopefully start to feel better.However. Other times depression just doesn't go away. Maybe your circumstances are extremely negative and unchanging. Or maybe you have genetic predisposition to depression (depression can run in families, so look at your own family history) which means that no matter your circumstances you will always feel depressed. for these situations, you may need medication but you need to see a doctor for a prescription.
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (21 May 2011):
You should talk with a counselor or a therapist. They can help you figure out where your trapped feeling comes from, and what can be done about it.
Your feelings of not being good enough indicate low self-esteem. This in turn affects your behavior negatively, which then leads to negative outcomes and further reinforces your low self esteem, it's a vicious cycle. Wanting to be content is not the issue. The issue is learning to be OK with yourself first, accepting the way you are, and that you have choices that you can make to better your situation.
Depending on the situation, anti-depressants could help or offer some immediate relief if you're feeling really bad, so ask a therapist about this too. They are not the cure by themselves, long lasting healing from depression comes from working on your issues, and anti-depressants are a useful tool to help you with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): HiTrust in yourself....if you don't believe in yourself who else will ? crying get that over with and start a new day...start working towards getting independant, livinga with parents won't make a young man feel good,decide what you would like to do, work /train/study/ research/ get an aim in life then go and get it....it won't knock on your door. Friends i am afraid often come and go ...that's life, along the way you will develop NEW friendships it does not meen you think any less of old friends, just moving on in life. Things don't HAPPEN unless we make them happen or at least guide ourselves close by. You sound fit healthy and and young...time to stop feeling down and feeling sorry for yourself! I know it's not good to be unemployed but you have to change that and your attitude...of course your good enough and that is what every employer wants to hear.Feeling down won't get you anywhere....tea and sympathy in my book keeps a person in the same state of mind DOWN :( Go and enjoy things on your own for a while if you must, discover things about yourself that are strong and how you wish to develop your qualities. Volunteer a few hours a week in something you would really love to do, this may even open a door for you,NEVER GIVE UP !!!!!:)Good Luck !!!!!change your dreams to what YOU ARE GOING TO DO to change your feelings of been trapped, you hold the key.Spunky monkey
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