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writes: Hey. I'm 22 and in a friends with benefits relationship with this guy I know. I'm fine with it, but some things he says kind of bother me. Like when we first hooked up, he said "you'd be a good wife" and I was shocked because I don't want to hear that, and he says "well I mean your sexual appetite at least will make up for anything else, like if you cant cook". I know he's liked me since he met me like 2 years ago. He always says how funny I am and how I crack him up and he loves my laugh, but I know it's just that he wanted to do me. So that was the first comment. Then the next time, he says "you drive me crazy but I like it. I can never tell what you're thinking. I'm always like 'does she like me or not?' I think it makes me more persistant". He says little comments like that, and I just want to make sure he's not getting any weird ideas. I doubt it, but I really really would like to avoid it, but if these are nothing to worry about, I'll continue. Thank you so much!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 Well to be honest "friends with benifits" is in other words a F*uck buddy! In these circumstances you almost always get one that falls the other couldnt care less. he has fallen for you and when he says these things he is testing the water to see how you react. Its clear that he wants more, if you dont your going to have to tell him, this will only get worse the longer he is with you as he will fall harder and become alot more hurt than now. You need to lay it out to him that you were only ever after a casual thing and that nothing more will come of this. Whilst at the begining he will accept this and just say yeah thats cool just to be with you on the odd occasions, but its clear that he really does want more, you need to tell him and be strong as hes going to be upset, but you cant carry on if your not feeling the same as the guy will hurt. This wont get any better as hes fallen and hes pretty happy with the snippets but in the long term he wants more! You have to do the decent thing and put a stop to this as it will get a lot worse.
Take care x
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reader, kelbell +, writes (10 July 2006):
 ummm...yeah, dont you think the idea of "friends w/ benifits" is healthy ? i mean anytime sex is involved theres gonna be strings attached!someone just may wind up hurt...chances are it's gonna be him! If you're really a friend, i think you should find out whats really up with him from his point of view, otherwise it could get pretty ugly in the future.~`*kel*`~
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (8 July 2006):
 This is just my opinion and opinion only. I don't believe in a thing as casual sex or as you put it "friend with benefits". My GOD its sex. Anytime sex is involve you will have feelings from one party or the other. Its obvious the guy has feelings for you and this is the only way he can have some sort of a relationship with you. Even though for some guys this is an ideal situation, there are some guys who do fall to the waist side and fall for sex instead of the person. Believe me this will only get worse if it continues and he will only be more hurt. Just my opinion because I have been there.
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reader, AsianGirl +, writes (8 July 2006):
 well its very obvious my dear that this guys got the hots for you,. just be yourself and do not exagerate..
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