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writes:hmm.. well ive had a really bad past. from when i was like 9, i made the wrong friends, started taking drugs and drinking alcohol, had too many boyfriends though im still a virgin, i moved out of home for about 1 and a half years and i have been to juvy before.i have kinda learned to forget the past and look forward to the future but thats a bit hard.all the boyfriends i had treated me like crap. they bashed me and cheated on me and i was even sent to hospital because of 1 of them. now im scared to have another boyfriend. i cant trust anyone. i relly like this guy but i still cant fully trust him, he knows about my past but he still gets angry because i dont fully trust him.can someone give me advice on how to forget the past. :(
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reader, bfire  +, writes (10 August 2008):
First you have to sort out your life before you get another boyfriend.
I am hoping you put those things behind you and that is why you call it your "past".
Also you don't want to forget your past because you have to remember it so that you don't do those things again. Obviously you aren't happy with your past and that is the greatest motivation for creating a good future for yourself.
You are something like 15 years old? Do you really need a boyfriend now? I had my first girlfriend at 15 but we were no more than just good friends. I wouldn't say you should wait as long as I did (I am 23 now and still no serious relationship or anything) but maybe there should be other things to be focusing your attention on.
For beginners if a guy, who isn't even your boyfriend, can't understand your past and feel sympathy for why you don't trust him, then I don't think he can help you much. Right now I think you don't need to forget but instead to understand and find someone that can also 'understand'.
Don't take my word for it though, wait for a few responses and choose what you think will be the best for you.
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