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writes:I have been friends with this girl for a long time (about 10 years). We went to school together for a long time, but halfway through eight grade, I had to switch schools. Two years later (Halloween of this year), we ran into each other and our friendship picked up where it left off. She has a boyfriend, but I really like her. We have lots of fun together, but sometimes I need help from her as my family puts me through hell day in and out. I tell her about my problems (she said she would always listen to me), but today, after an arguement with my family, I texted her and she told me (in a very rude way) that she didn't want to hear it. I got angry and then we started arguing. I don't know what to do to set things right. I need advice. Thank you for your time and help.
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reader, Solar's Broken Heart +, writes (7 February 2009):
Solar's Broken Heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToday I called her and we both admitted that we were wronglast night. We talked for a while and it's all water under the bridge now. Thanks for your help. :)
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reader, Solar's Broken Heart +, writes (7 February 2009):
Solar's Broken Heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help man. :)
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reader, Rylee210 +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Well, scratch the "forgive and forget", it obviously was harsher than that. It would seem that the only coarse of action left to take is to just apologize and wait it out. She will probably stop being mad at you after a while, and that's if she is mad at you at all. Different people take arguments different ways; some people can shake things off, some cant. Just cross your fingers and tell her that you care about her and are sorry. There isn't much more then that you can do.
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reader, Solar's Broken Heart +, writes (7 February 2009):
Solar's Broken Heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe arguement was short. Cuss words flew; we called each other out, but it ended when I told her that I was sorry I had even bothered talking to her and that I was done talking to her.
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reader, Rylee210 +, writes (7 February 2009):
In truth, i don't think i can help you very much because i DON'T know how severe the argument was, or how it played out. The only thing that i can think of for you to tell her is that she DID hurt you, and that you DO care about her. It would be best to just try and get your feelings across slowly, you don't want to force them, but just tell her in a kind way that you don't want your relationship to go downhill.
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reader, Solar's Broken Heart +, writes (7 February 2009):
Solar's Broken Heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help. I will talk to her first chance I get and try to fix it. I want to let her know that she really hurt me. How could I do this without her thinking that I don't think I was in the wrong? I really want to be with her; she is really special and I want to end up with her.
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reader, Rylee210 +, writes (7 February 2009):
Truth be told this sounds like a situation that could be solved with the "forgive and forget" plan, say sorry and move on. There is no need to blow it out of proportion, or make a big deal out of it. If all you did was argue, then you should be fine. If it got to a much harsher scale, then I'm sure, if you have been friends for as long as you say, that a simple apology should still suffice. I would advise talking to her and setting new boundaries, because if your relationship has changed you don't want to be stuck in awkward situations!
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