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*ildenglishrose
writes:I need to find a job fast but its sooo hard! I'm 21yrs old and can't stand being on the dole, im so ashamed. I hate signing on, i have money problems. Bills i can't pay, its just awful. From the age of 13 till a couple of months ago i was caring for my grandmother sadly due to many of her health problems i could no longer look after her so i had to put her in a nursing home. With care money income support and my grans pension we managed all the bills now thats all gone and im left with being on jobseekers which is only £55 a week. I can't cope with all the bills such as rent, electric, gas, food, phone bill. My mobile has been cut off but im still being billed every month for it, i owe my phone company £189 This year has been the worst year of my life, i've had to cope with all this on my own, sort myself out and my gran. In jan my gran took ill and was given 24 hours to live that broke my heart, i found myself at her hospital bed all through the night, her two sons didn't wanna no when i rang and told them that there mother had 24hours left they just said "not my problem" and hung up. Thankfully she pulled through but as i said early on she's in a nursing home now. I miss her so much and when i go to see her i feel so guilty for having her in there. Im still living in her house FOR NOW the council are meant to be finding me somewhere but seems to be taken a life time. I can't stay in this house because its only for over 65's as its warden controlled. Because the house is in my grans name i've been turned down for housing benefit until i get my own property which means im left to somehow pay £68 a week rent when im only living on £55 a week. I'm so stressed out just seems one bad news after another. All this because i cared for someone. I'm worried im gonna end up being homeless since i can't pay the rent. I've tried to be strong through all this but im getting to my limit now, the only thing thats stopping me from ending it all is that i couldn't do it to my gran. She's 83yrs old and very frail. The rest of my family can't help, her two sons are a waste of time, i wont speak to them since what they did when she was ill, my dad is one of her son's and to me he is dead now. So im on my own, i apply for jobs every day and i either here nothing back or get interviews but never get the job. I want to work in a care home but none will give me a chance, i get the same answer back, they won't take on staff who have never worked in a home before. It's so unfair, i've never had a job before seeing as i looked after my gran from such a young age so that doesn't help either. I see so many girls my age who are either pregnant got kids on drugs falling out of pubs/clubs and don't work yet they seem to get all the help. Does anyone no where i can get a chance with a job?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): First of all I think you're a brilliant person to take care of your gran without any support. Truly, you're an inspiration. Don't feel guilty about what has or is happening with your gran because it's not your fault.
I really wanted to write because a)I'm in the same situation with money and completely sympathise...and b) cause I used to work in health and social care and want to offer you some help getting some work.
First of all, write letters to each bill company, explain your money situation. I can't live on £55 either and it kills me, but somehow I do. As others have said, many will offer you payment options. There should be other benefits you can claim. Speak to a housing officer and the council. Is selling your grans property an option? What about getting a lodger?
Secondly, I don't know what your qualifications are, but your first NVQ (in health and social care) at level 2, is often paid for by government training schemes, so speak to colleges about completing that. On top of that you can also get extra money for being in education...you used to get EMA which was £30 a week, but I think the new governemnt has changed that. So check. An NVQ will help you get get a job in care. You also have plenty of personal experience so draw on that in interviews. Dress well,and prepare yourself for the interviews by checking out the company, and having a few anecdotes ready such as how you owuld deal with emergencies or how you best carry out personal care. I actually lied about my experience when I first started but they didn't seem to mind cause I was good at my job. If experience is the problem,start by volunteering in care homes,and more than likely you will get a job.
What are of the Uk are you in? There are so many, many care homes and they're always crying out for help. I suggest you book into connexions and speak to a careers advisor. Write a good CV, feel free to embellish it a little.
I hope this helps. You sound like a genuinely amazing person, and I hopeyou get what you want, good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Hi English Rose,
Don't worry, (easier said than done) I know you must feel sick with nerves, but this will pass. You'll find a job and look back at this period as a hardship that's finally over.
I haven't read through all the advice people have given you, but it looks thorough and very good! :)
Maybbe you should try printing your cv and taking a walk down your high street, retail shops always advertise in windows and maybe you can get something temporary until you find something that's right for you. Infact maybe you'll find something and hopefully job centre can help you with a course on care? I sincerely wish you the best of luck- I know what this feels like so I hope with all my heart you get the break you deserve xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): There are a few jobs in life that seem to be almost recession proof. You need to ask yourself what is it that all of society needs regardless of how bad the economy gets? It all comes down to the bare necessities in life.
Food
Water
Shelter
Healthcare
Waste Disposal
Communication(Telephone,Cable TV, media)
Try looking for work in those areas. Try to find room mates to share expenses. Look for room mate ads on bulletin boards or in the news paper. If you can pool your expenses with others you will get by.
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