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writes:so im in a lil bit of a situation with some girl i like. She is a single mom (not a problem), she is 2 years older (again not a problem) and she is my ex's friend. They used to be great friends but they have had some issues before the girl i like moved, but she recently moved back, because she broke up with her boyfriend. Me and my ex are not talking at the moment because of how bad she hurt me and some life choices she has made. i just recently talked to thee girl i like a lil bit last week on facebook, and this is how our conversation went;me: hey hope everything is going good at your new homeher: actually i moved back to portlandme : oh im sorry to hear, that what happenedher: he was seeing someone else so it ended up not working outme: oh that suxher: ya im confusedme: ya i know how you feelher: ya i knowme: are you okher: i will be i gotta find a job and support my son, thats all i knowme: ull figure it out im sure, if you need someone to talk to i can always lend an ear, especially with you having to deal with my babble from mine and my ex's break upher: it was no problem but i may have to take you up on that sometime, thank youme: anytime im usually up all night, well ill ttyland that is how it went most recently when i remade contact with her. I dont know if that means she will actually wanna talk orr if she's just saying that. I have really started to like her, and wanna know how to approach this. Anyone have any advice?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (6 November 2012):
 Maybe just occasionally send her a message, ask her how it's going and just chat with her. See where it goes. I wouldn't expect alot since she is coming out of a relationship and needs time to get over that. But sometimes just being there can lead to more. Good luck.
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (6 November 2012):
 I agree with Honeypie; give her some time and let her start talking.
As for your ex; I understand your feelings are bitter towards her but I would stop talking badly about your ex to this girl. Your ex is this girl's friend whether your like it or not. To hear you talking badly about her friend not only looks bad but she will not be as eager to talk to you or hang out with you.
Be gentle, kind, and patient.
Good Luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 November 2012):
 I would not push anything with this girl, seems like she JUST went through major drama with a dude and the last thing she needs is another dude wanting to date her.
I think what you did was fine you offered her an ear to bend and a shoulder to cry on (so to speak) but I would honestly let HER make the next move.
She has a LOT on her plate I bet.
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