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male
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26-29,
*amense
writes:Me and my girlfriend have crush on each other for 5 years since high school but didnt know then. And now in a relationship for one n half year. Actually we were in the same little hometown so it was all okay if we didnt see each other much. But now we both in different cities for study and She just got out from home to another city and gettin exposed to the rush, unknown poeple, mates.. She has just grown up and before she was treated like a princess by her parents and now no parents or family. She lives with her aunts family now there. and I worry too much bout her. Now m havin breaks so in home at our hometown which is not far from her city (I have nothing to do actually, Just think of her all day, even dont want to think or do anything else) but in couple of days I m heading back to my city which is far from her and our hometown. I remain down all the time cuz now she dont have much time to talk. She have school all day and then tuition and then self study so little time to talk and even she gets too tired at night cant talk nicely even.. So she is tryin hard to make me up by talkin nicely but I dont wanna be hard on her. I care too much bout her just like her parents may do. She loves me a lot. We thrown a sunday plan that we will talk only on Sundays cuz she is busy and she should concentrate on study but I m feelin stupid that we cant talk but wont talk. I wont survive without her even a single day.. And I worry too much that she travels alone and many perverts like her at school. Well she is really good in study so this is the thing she always care bout, I dont know m feelin lucky that she chose me. Else she dont like hookin around guys. She is pretty and I worry that her male friends will take advantage of her as she is friendly and innocent. I mean she is too social. She likes to make friends.. And these days she dont talk like before, I mean less romantic things, she says after all of the busy day she become so tired that she just type anything hardly, But I become down so she tries her best.. And she is strugglin with her 24 hours, less time, so much to do, Sometimes she studies and talks to me at the sometime cuz she cant help. Give me good advice as m too much worried bout her.. I love her to death. And we want to spend the rest of the life together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2014): You really need to find something to do with your life other than concentrating all your time and thoughts on her. It isn't healthy.
You speak nothing of having friends or your own social-life. All you talk about is what she's doing. You are far too hung-up on her, and your fixation on her is almost obsessive.
You need to make some friends, play sports, travel, or get a job. You have far too much time on your hands, and you spend all of it worrying about her.
If you don't get out there and do more with yourself, she is going to eventually feel smothered, and feel you're closing-in on her. You don't need to worry about her, she can obviously take care of herself. I think she is keeping distance between you on purpose. No one needs someone constantly worrying and concerned about their every move.
You idolize her, and you've placed her up on a pedestal like a fragile doll. She is a full-grown woman, and she is not sitting around worrying about YOU! Remove the halo and stop worshiping her like a goddess. She is human.
I will put it simply that you need to find something important to do with your time; and a job would be the ideal thing. You need to work on not going overboard about women. That will not go over well on the dating scene, and females (including her) will avoid you.
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