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writes:Hello everyone, I broke up with my boyfriend of two years about 6 months ago. We were friends for the first few months after, with a few ups and downs along the way, but over the past few months we have become best friends and are virtually inseparable. He is the nicest, funniest, sweetest guy I know and is literally perfect for me. I know you think I'm just a teenager and I don't know what I'm talking about, but I'm mature enough to know what I want in a boyfriend, and he is everything. He recently broke up with his short term, long distance girlfriend, but even when they were together we had a very special friendship. I would very much like to get back with him now. Our relationship previously was good and at the time I thought it was perfect, however after having 6 months to mature and reflect I now know that it wasn't perfect BUT we've both changed quite a lot since then (we were both reasonably quiet and perhaps held each other back, but now we have both developed our individual characters and I they work perfectly together) and I KNOW we would have a fabulous relationship now. When we were shopping yesterday I asked him what he would want in a perfect girl. He said they would be reasonably good looking, intelligent and funny, among other not so significant things. I feel that I fit this specification as he often says I look pretty or he likes my hair etc, and we have lots of laughs and banter together. So, rather daringly, I asked him what was wrong with me, as he is adamant that he will not get back with me. He says it is because when we were together we argued a lot. I need to prove to him that I'm not that argumentative person anymore, and we'd have so much more fun this time, but this I what I need help with, I don't know how to show him this! We were at a party last night and the night before, he protected me all night as it was quite wild and walked me home, we danced together and had a laugh, and many people asked me if we were back together. It is even obvious to other people that we should be together and I think he might be unaware of how special our bond is. How can I show him that if he got back with me there would be no more arguments and we'd have a great time together? P.S We are going to prom together in a few weeks time if this helps to develop your master plan ;)
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reader, N91 +, writes (3 June 2012):
 He's told you why he didn't want to be together, and by forcing the point when he's saying he won't get back together, isn't that kind of being stubborn or, in a way, argumentative? Because you're trying to go against what he's saying...
If he doesn't realise for himself that you're meant to be together, then I can't really think what you can do besides just point blank telling him that you still like him and want to try again.
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reader, one woman guy  +, writes (3 June 2012):
 you need to tell your "friend" that u r practically a couple!!!you party together,hang out together,go shopping together...you need to show him you have changed..try pointing out differences from ur behavior in past and ur behavior now..tell him how much you love him..show it to him...tell him he would have to go through the whole process of "getting to know her" if he goes for a new girl..but with you...its already done...tel him exactly what you feel for him in your heart...lay it out there infront of him..if he still says no...trust me..its his loss...
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reader, one woman guy +, writes (3 June 2012):
you need to tell your "friend" that u r practically a couple!!!you party together,hang out together,go shopping together...you need to show him you have changed..try pointing out differences from ur behavior in past and ur behavior now..tell him how much you love him..show it to him...tell him he would have to go through the whole process of "getting to know her" if he goes for a new girl..but with you...its already done...tel him exactly what you feel for him in your heart...lay it out there infront of him..if he still says no...trust me..its his loss...
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