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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:There's a girl that I think really liked me. She'd wait for me after class, text me, asked to hang out. On the other hand, she also has a bunch of good guy friends, and I didn't (and still don't) know if that was her normal level of interaction or if I was special. I never found out, nor got the chance to ask her out (you'll see why in a second), being the "take-it-slow" type. We never explicitly expressed feelings for each other, but I (thought I) felt something. Instead, I'd talk to her about school, personal lives, etc, but not about feelings.Then, she met a new guy ("NG") and he fell for her. Suddenly, a mutual friend ("MF") between her, him, and I started helping NG get closer to her, woo her, etc. while I sat back, having no idea of it. Now she's pretty much dating him, and kinda dropped me off the radar. We're not even close friends anymore.She seems to prefer the flamboyant, extroverted types to my personal, private style. For example, she never even told me about her relationship (I found out through MF), but she seems to have opened up to another guy, very flirty (but already in a relationship, so not too much), crossing lines I or anyone else I know wouldn't even approach, but apparently it worked. She tells him about her time with NG, but won't even mention him when talking to me.I know I missed my chance. Should I have taken the initiative? Was there anything I could have done differently, considering her preference in guys, or am I just the wrong type?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 No there was a lot you could have done and you should have told her how you felt as you never no how she feels until you ask her so its still not to late if you like her then talk to her and tell her how you ave been feeling, pluck up the courage and go for it.
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