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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I met a guy online. He seems genuine.. has told me his entire life story which was quite sad... so I'm trusting its true. We used to talk often but now we have stopped and I even took the step of removing him from my friends list on Facebook. But I miss him now. I was going through our messages and I noticed how he had requested me to share photos from my neighbourhood, have a skype call with him and also said that he liked me and thought about me many times. Each time he said those things I had changed the subject or given an excuse. I just couldn't reciprocate to his requests and declarations partly, because we are far away and partly because I don't know if i can trust him. He had also mentioned that he wasn't looking to date. so I thought it was useless.The last time i wrote to him he said he will talk to me later as he was busy but then but he never got back I felt he was over me so I didn't write to him either. And a few days later I deleted him from my facebook list. However I am thinking about him now and find it stupid that i didn't even try.We have skyped once and he was totally nice. He has seen me and I have seen him as well.We have had weird conversations about socialism, psychology, astrology, carpentry.We have also shared about our past relationship experiences. He has told me about his childhood (which wasn't so good- though there are some details which he hasn't got into)I has also told him about my family.We have talked about our work life as well. Infact, he helped me when I was thinking of getting a job with some advice.There are some things about him which seems dark as in his life story and things he has gone through. But as a person he seems nice. However he did hint that he has anger issues.I know its done but I still miss him sometimes. I feel I'm a lil too obsessed about him. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2015): OP here.
thanks for replying. I wasn't sure before but now I feel that maybe he wasn't into me from the beginning itself. I think he was thinking of me like a rebound for a rebound. And that changes everything for me. I want to be with someone who genuinely cares for me and I guess I just needed to know if he did care or not. Thanks for answering.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2015): Hi. I think u miss him because you both were on the talking terms before, but not now, I guess... It is very difficult and risky to trust any online friend and the stories he told you. But I am sure it is temporary. You will forget about it after some time. Don't hold the things
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2015): I am the OP.
So I should not think about it?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 October 2015):
 Way back before there was an online friend we had what we called pen pals. Like you I found a REAL good friend(female) we shared our innermost thoughts etc. exchanged photos and the likee. So, I can relate to your anxiety too. Even before computers folks shared with total strangers and that was an intimate thing. Alas like you the exchanges wanned and we grew apart. I still wonder about her. You will wonder for the rest of your life too. It was a special moment in life but there will be dozens more to fill your days. Malama Pono
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