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writes:I miss my ex boyfriend. I know this is a right of passage etc, but it doesn't make it any better.We were together for 6 months in a long distance relationship and were friends before we went out. It's been 3 months since we broke up and at the moment I'm missing him a lot. I want to get back in touch with him (maybe not now, but I want a plan of action so as to make me feel better) but not sure how to go about it. I don't want to get back in touch and him think I'm trying to him back into a relationship. I want to be friends as we shared similar interests etc.How can I go about doing this without scaring him off!?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 March 2012):
 Here is the catch-22 of this idea.
you KNOW you should not be in touch with him now but you want a plan of action for when you are ready to be in touch with him....
the problem is that when you are ready to be in touch with him you won't need a plan because it will either just happen or you will no longer care.
Cerberus is right... there is no good reason for you to be in touch with him and you wanting to do it to make yourself feel better is NOT a good idea... and you are far from over him....
You are Long distance so the only contact you would have would be online, or the phone right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): OP the fact that you want to be friends wit him because you want to "make yourself feel better" means you have far too much emotion still invested in this guy for it to be a good idea.
You're still too hung up on him and reconnecting with him is only going to make it far harder to move on from him.
You should move on OP.
But if you insist on putting yourself back into that mess just then talk to him. If you really want him to be a friend then you can't be scared of talking to him and just saying "hi" the fact you are worried about this is another sign that this is just not a good idea.
I don't know how you expect getting in contact with your ex is going to make you feel better. It makes no sense to want to regain such an emotional connection with someone you still so very obviously have feelings for and if you think you can just pick up where you left off before you got together then that's not going to happen either.
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