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writes:i am 14 me and my partner want a baby , i might be pregnant and we really hope i am he is scared what will happwn if i am what will happen to the baby ?
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reader, Sabriena14 +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Okay i'm 14 and know exactly how you feel.
Once you get out of the novelty that sex is its really not all that exciting and you will start to be more careful. The guy i'm seeing has two kids because he was careless and he's mot with either of their moms. At 14 you are far to young to make decisions like that, that will affect your whole life. Your boyfriend may or may not stick by you but unless he moves on with you its going to feel like you're a single parent anyway
Sabriena
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Honestly, if you want a baby you should already KNOW what will happen. If you don't know then don't try to have a baby! You are absolutely not responsible enough for a child when you don't even know what will happen!
Starters first, if your partner is over the the age of sexual consent, and you are under the age of sexual consent (which you are), he will be charged with statutory rape. Next, if you are pregnant you will have to see your doctor about it.
Im all for young people having children, but only if: they have the money to support the child, the have the knowledge they need, and they understand what is happening! Which you don't. At your age your brain actually isn't fully developed yet and teenagers don't understand to concept of consequences. Yes things will happen if you are pregnant.... and it will not be good things.
Hope you can sit down and read up about pregnancies and teenage mothers and birth complications. Online, in the library, or talk to your school nurse.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Oh God...I don't even know you and I'm angry! You're fourteen! Have you any idea how much you're going to suffer if you are pregnant?! You want to know what's going to happen? Here goes. First off, your body isn't ready to have a baby at 14. Kids your age usually "rip" when giving birth which means that vaginal tissue tear when the baby comes out. Also, you're at greater risk for herrmorhaging, which is a condition where you start excessively bleeding and risk death. My mom's a nurse and lost a 13 and 15yr old patient to them giving birth. Your baby is at higher risk for low birth rate and other complications. There won't be anymore carefree fun. There will be bills to pay: hospital, diapers, formula, clothes, crib etc. So, it's good that you have a college degree and a well-paying job in this terrible economy right? A baby needs to be born to two mature parents who are prefferably married and successful. Pray that you're not pregnant. Take a test and really think about this.
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reader, essential_tee  +, writes (3 October 2010):
you're much too young to have a child. you're just a baby yourself. im going to keep my fingers crossed and hope this is just a false alarm. if its not, then you are going to have a little bundle of joy in nine months. what will you do? thats completely up to you. you could get an abortion, you could give the child up for adoption. or you could keep it. thats totally up to you and what you feel is best. if you do keep it, you must understand that you are choosing a long hard road. you have many challenges ahead of you as a young unwed mother. it will most likely be very hard. but not impossible. but what i do suggest if you decide to keep this baby is that you stay in school, and continue with your education regardless if you and the child's father stay together or not.
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reader, starstruck.x.x.x +, writes (3 October 2010):
YOU WANT A BABY? YOUR 14 LOVE!!!!
wait another say 10 years and think again. it's a bit of a wishful thinking situation.
think, how long have you been with your boyfriend? do you honestly see yourself with him when your 60? wait til you get more mature and realise how stupid you sound!!!!!!
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