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writes:Guys feel free to give me your opinion..please! I met this guy who had not long come out of a serious relationship, we really liked eachother and met up a few times. He text me all the time, called late at night, always wanted to hug me/ see me and was q suggestive sexually etc but said nothing could happen (even though he wanted it to) cos he couldn't commit so didn't want to hurt me. He was always clear about this yet came on very strong and almost obsessive about me. Yet suddenly he started brushing me off, and said he was busy and almost not bothered anymore. Now I don't hear from him,I really like him yet feel bit hurt and foolish. Why would a guy do this? He obviously isn't being honest with me anymore, just blatently ignoring me?! Help??!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 There are two possibilities to this, I guess:
1) It seems that he is finally doing what he should have done from the very beginning. In my opinion, before you make a move, you need to check what you can realistically offer that person, and tell her clearly about it. And, if what you can offer is not what the other person wants, then you should be very straightforward and NOT pursue a relationship.
This guy might have allowed himself to be carried away, and has now realized that he would hurt you.
or
2) He didn't want to dive into the relationship with you, made this remark to have a way out if he needed it, and then he decided to take that way out.
I think the first alternative is more likely, though. He seems to have been very attracted to you.
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