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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. In the past, I've been in relationships which have ended in physical abuse, cheats and being broken hearted.I think I've finally found the right guy for me. I'm really concerned that because I've been hurt in the past, I push him away because I'm scared of falling too deep and getting hurt. I become distant, and upset and stop talking to him... but for no actual reason and I can't help it, something at the back of my head says "Stop, now. Or You'll get hurt." The other week this happened he said " I'm sorry for what ever I've done this time." and I said " Do I make you feel that you do everything wrong?" and he replied "well, sometimes I feel like when you're upset that I'm to blame."Now he's become quite distant, on the phone or MSN, he seems to not talk as much as he used to. But in person it's fine. He says it's because he's got lots of work to do and he likes to be on his own sometimes to think about things so he becomes distant.He says he loves me... But I don't really know what those words mean anymore. I know I love him though.. more than anything. Please help me. Have I pushed him away? I want that magic back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Hi, I was physically abused and emotionally by my ex-husband. I knew him for 11 years and I supported him financially, emotionally and through school. He crippled my mind. We got married and had a daughter together. I got the guts to leave him when he hit me in front of our daughter. I know how you feel...honestly. I have since got into another relationship and you have to realise that if you start treating your new beau with fear, apprehension and basically how you were with your ex you are putting him in the same category and that is why he is probably a bit aloof with you. Try and find yourself, relax and enjoy his company. If you don't like something then walk away, you know the warning signs. Being with an abusive ex gives you knowledge, and knowledge is power!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): You should always be open to a new person, because there's a chance that they could end up being great for you. However, if you've been hurt before, you should also try to be careful in becoming attached to someone, and trusting them completely. There is a chance that he feels badly about you "pushing him away," but I'm sure that if you just talk to him about your feelings, he'll understand, and try to help you.
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