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writes:*Op's own title*I was dating a girl for the last month , well when I say dating I mean we were hanging out on a regular basis talking alot we kissed, held hands when we were alone, things like that. I felt like I needed to know where things were going and so I asked, I got a very blah response from her and then the agressive person in me came out, basically put her on the spot, demanded an answer and probabably made her feel trapped. I tried to use my words to get out of the mess I made and it only seem to dig myself in a deeper hole. I have definetly screwed this all up and would like to know how I could possibly even try to fix this. I am giving her space right now but I still want he rto know that I am very intrested in her. Her birthday was yesterday and we all went out mine and her friends and we had a good time I played it cool and just let her enjoy herself with me in the background. This morning when I woke up I took her a flower and put it on her door, was this a good move or am I crowding the situation?This happened 6 days ago so I know its still fresh but is it ok to try to romance her or should I just completely avoid doing anything to try and win her over? She is 24 and I am 25 if that makes the advice any better.
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reader, KingofAZ +, writes (28 April 2010):
KingofAZ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks fo rall of the advice again I appreciate you guys taking the time to help someone in need. I hope that she comes around and I will resist the urge and it is very difficult but if its meant to be then it will be.
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reader, raiders +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Wait don't rush into any conclusion thats what got you in to trouble the first time. You just gave her the flowers today wait patiently if you are really interested in her. Give her some space but still be in the picture because she might feel that you are not interested and was not really that into her. Do Romance her, be a gentlemen with her and if you see no results than only than consider you have lost this battle. If you really like her don't give up that easy.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (27 April 2010):
I know how you feel. I was in a similar spot and messed up as well, similar way, maybe even worse. While she talked to me, she wouldn't see me for four months. I finally thought it was over and then out of the blue she called and we eventually got back together.
You didn't say if you left a card with the flower or if it was just the flower. Would she know it was from you?
The best advice I can give is to keep giving her space and see what happens. I know the urge may be there to email or text or call but you should resist. Let time try to heal those wounds.
all the best
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reader, KingofAZ +, writes (27 April 2010):
KingofAZ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks sanita for the advice I havent got a responce from the flower I left so I am guessing this is pretty much over for her. I guess I will have to learn from my mistakes and flowers are the quickest way to get left ...
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reader, Sanita  +, writes (27 April 2010):
I can see that u really like this girl a lot. I adivice you to give her some space as you have been doing and wait and see what will happen. Don't try to rush things in will only make things worse.
good luck have a good one.
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