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writes:Hello everyone, i'm having alot of trouble throughout these past 2 years. You see i was 16 years old when i first dated this girl. Me and her we had a amazing start it feels as if we were really meant to be. Our relationship lasted about 8 months and it ended because of my stupid mistakes. I left her because of school and family purposes because you see i come from a family that supports the idea as #1 priority. Before i left her, i told her to wait for me because i promised her that i'll come back and i did. It was the night of December 24th 2008 where i finally called her and express everything i felt and went through during the 3month of absences. She refused to come back to me and said that shes already seeing another guy, at first i didn't believe her because i thought she was just saying that to throw me off but the next day i called her again on Christmas and i found myself in tears just telling her that i love her and she finally told me that she still loves me and i really thought we were going to be okay and happy again.. but i was wrong it turns out she was speaking the truth that she was seeing another guy and my heart was torn apart. Early 2009 it was official that they were together and she tried to be friends with me but i couldn't accept that and i didn't. In march i met someone new and i'm still with her till this day. Me and my Ex had many arguments and sometimes she would attack me with words and we both ended up never speaking again for almost a year now. During my senior year in high school i really wanted to deny my feelings for her that still lives in me only because i'm with someone new but it was useless the fact is that i do sitll love her very much..during senior year we could always catch each other eyes and look away.. and just looking her eye to eye just makes me feel so indifferent on the inside i can't even explain it. Shes been with her boyfriend for about a year and 6 - 8 months now and i still don't know what to do. She changed my life amazingly and in my heart i know i would choose her over anything. Todays my graduation, and i know after today i may never ever see her again in my life. And the question is.. what should i do with these feelings ? what should i do with the one im with now ? how am i going to live through these memories..?
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (16 June 2010):
It's harder than hell to let someone go completly. and you're not supposed to! you say she changed your life, and that in itself is an amazing thing. Maybe that was her purpose in your life. To help you learn things, to change you as a person. Like they say, if you love it, set it free, if it comes back, it was yours to begin with. I'm trying to deal with that right now! Maybe your paths will cross again in some time, maybe they won't. But stewing over this relationship is only going to hurt you in the end. You can chose to express your feelings to her one last time before you guys move on with your life, and leave it at that. Then you'll have no regrets, and won't wonder "what if i would have told her how i felt? would things have been different?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): Firstly , you being unfair to your current partner. You may want to end things with her before you attempt to get back with the 'love of your life'( I may just call her Suzy, its easier to say than 'love of your life'). If Suzy really doesn't want to get back together with you and doesn't return the feeling, then you will have to try to move on, even if she is the 'the one'. I recently had to do this, and it hurts. I'm not saying this as one of those people who just says "Simple. Get over her." I know what I'm talking about. As for the memories, reflect back on them and focus on the negatives. This may help. Good luck babes x
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