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female
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30-35,
*onfused-girl
writes:I am 18 and have recently started working in a bar. My boss is very flirty and keeps making suggestive remarks. However he is in his 40's and has a girlfriend. I'm not sure if he is just being friendly or is like this with everyone else, he doesn't seem to act this way with the other bar staff and I'm confused as to what is going on. I think I may have developed feelings for him, but it could just be because he is showing me some attention. I need some advice on what people think.
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reader, Auntiee Amsiee +, writes (31 July 2008):
 hey sweetie, i personally think that its wrong of him to be flirting with you when your that much younger and he has a girlfriend ( no offence intended ) to be flirted with will make you feel attracted to the person who is flirting with you. if he doesent act this way with other members of staff then he may be coming on to you, however i do think it is unwise to pursue something with your boss. your there to work and if it got awkward he could fire you or make your work life uncomftable.
good luck
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reader, confused-girl +, writes (31 July 2008):
confused-girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice, another thing is I get on with his girlfriend really well. She is only in her 20's so not much older than me. They seem to be going through a bit of a rough patch, and I don't want to just be someone he used whilst things were bad between the two of them.
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reader, bemused  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hi sweets
Hmmmm.....funny thing about bars. I think the atmosphere when you work in one...any many of us have..kind of jumpstarts attraction. I think the fact alcohol is involved factors in.
If you boss is making suggestive remarks and is in a committed relationship that I think that he stepping over the line a bit in his position of power and is not honoring his girlfriend either.
My take would be that he has probably done it before with previous employees..you might be flavor of the month. You say you have developed feelings for him...great a committed man who is old enough to be your father. If he runs a bar he probably has good people skills,
is charming and has hooked you in a bit. I hate to say I know the type.
I would not put too much stock in his flirting right now. You want to do your job and be professtional. I think you will know his true intent if you make a poing of NOT returning his flirting. If he is trifling with you, it may annoy him...may affect your job.
If he really does like you, he may have to think about how things are. I say stay professtional though and good luck.
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