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*hawty_123
writes:okay me and my boyfriend have been going on and off for a year and a half. we always get in yelling fights and everything but at the end of the day its all better, but when we were in a fight i went to my friends thats a guy and he made me feel better and he told me he loved me. i started to think that i had strong feelings for him. so we made love but after all that i saw it wasnt making love it was just sex and after he got it he said he didnt love me but we can be sexbuddys and i said no.. now should i tell my boyfriend or not? i know he knows there is something going on! but i love him to much to say bye forever HELPPPP :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): I don't agree with Lilly Rose. If you stay with the BF then the BF needs to know the whole story.
Trust me, he will eventually find out anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): I think you need to have nothing to do with either one of these clowns.
First off the boyfriend is using you too, and he is yelling at you and you at him, that is not a healthy relaitonship. And you need to stop giving your body away so easily to some guy who claims to love you. Guys this age make terrible boyfriends, they are really after one thing and that is sex and they will say and do anything to get it.
If you really want to know who likes you, it is the guy who is happy to just be in your company and will wait for sex for months until he has earned your trust and proven that he can be a good boyfriend to you.
Why don't you try not getting your self esteem and your happiness from the attentions of men, instead try being without a boyfriend to define you and be your own person and learn respect for yourself. If you had respect for yourself none of this would have happened and you wouldn't put up with a boyfriend who gets in shouting matches with you....very immature on both your parts.
Sorry, I am sure you wanted me to tell you how to handle telling the boyfriend about having sex with the other guy. In my opinion you just need to break it off with him instead, problem solved, and tell the guy who wants to be sex buddies to take a hike.
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reader, Anonymous159  +, writes (9 October 2009):
 yes you should tell your boyfriend. It does sound like your friend took advantage of you in a moment of weakness and don't you think this is something that should be considered when you evaluate your friendship?
If you do not tell your boyfriend it will get worse.
But are you sure you want to stay with him if you are fighting as much as you are, it doesn't sound healthy.
The best thing to do is tell him that way you can sit down and have a serious talk about what you want from your relationship, where you think its going and if it is really worth all that arguing.
hope i helped :)
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (9 October 2009):
 If you tell your boyfriend he will prob leave you...take it as you have learnt your lesson it was just sex now time to move on and figure out if you want to be with your boyfriend or not....but if it was a mistake and you know it was wrong and wont do it again then your boyfriend doesnt need to know....your young we all make mistakes!
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