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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupids,I fear that a couple of years ago I made a mistake that I know I cannot fix, but want to forget.I don't live with my mum, she and my dad divorced when I was around 2 years old. Since then I had a rocky relationship with her. Sometimes it was good others it wasnt so. She married my step-dad when I was about 12, they have had two kids of their own together since they met. I have a younger sister who lives with them, she is 3 years younger than me and does not want to know her dad.Anyway, a few years back I got into trouble regarding a bruise on my leg which I blamed on my step-dad (he was only playing, I had said it was an accident)my dad and step-mum investigated into this and it caused a massive fallout between us all. Since then I was scared of hurting my family's feelings so I lied to make myself feel better about not wanting to go to my mums. Eventually I started getting depressed and suffered frequent anxiety attacks (this is over a period of say 2 years since the incident, we were okay at this stage) I went to the doctor and she talked about my problems with me and restored some of my confidence.A few months later my step-dad got in touch with his son (from his previous marriage) who was 2 years older than me (I was 13 he was 15). We made friends quickly and I started talking about my problems with him and he was supportive and offered help. Eventually we became kinda attached to each other and got into a bit of a relationship. The next year after he turned 16 and I turned 14 I had sex with him. Not long after that night I told him I didn't want to be with him and it was wrong and I didn't like him at all (which was true) after that he kept bothering me, calling and texting. It got me down again.Now I can talk to my step-brother-in-law (opposite step family) about my problems. But I have never told him about this one because I am too ashamed of it.Is there anyway I can push this away???
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reader, chezcka  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Whoah. Ok, first of all, i understand why you feel ashamed about this. Since he's your stepdad's son, you're kinda feeling that you had sex with your brother. Tell him that. Talk to him. Say it feels uncomfortable, even gross to think about what you guys did. If he blackmails you, then just take it. Nothing will change what happened whether he tells on you or not. And if he does tell, at least he'll be going down with you. If you get through this, no one has to know. But if you really need to tell someone, tell one person in your family whom you trust. He/she will help you.
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