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30-35,
anonymous
writes: ok where i work at is a family business which is ran by two brothers who are my bosses one of the brothers has children which 2 of them work in the store as well so they also have authority I've liked one of they're sons for a long time and would talk to him here and there but one day i decided i couldn't keep it to my self any more i just couldn't so i decided to write him a letter telling him how i felt after he read the letter he talked to me and told me he just sees me as a friend and that there was some things in a the letter that were crossing the line ( i wrote some really personal things of how i felt) but that he was going to try and not make it awkward for both of us. ok in conclusion he's not the same with me any more he's always really serious with me which he isn't with no one else he laughs with every one but when is time to talk to me hes very serious and tries to keep the conversation short and i really feel like i made a mistake in ever giving him that letter so can some one help me !!!!! ps.. i know me and him will never be hes very wealthy gorgeous all the girls like him i mean all and hes 6 years older than me and i have a boyfriend also who ive been with almost 2 years
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 April 2008):
You've put him in a very awkward position, you know. Since he's technically your boss he could be accused of harassment if he makes any unwanted advances. I know that you like him a lot, but now that he's told you he is only a friend (and still an employer!) you're going to have to accept that.
I think Danielepew is correct in suggesting that you might need to find another job. The situation will most likely remain the same with him; he's keeping his distance because he doesn't want to give you any false hope.
Sorry if this doesn't help.
PS How would your boyfriend feel if he knew that you'd written this letter?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (29 April 2008):
Well, you gave him the letter already, and we can't change that. If it is very awkward, try finding another job. So far, he is behaving decently.
I think you should also try to avoid relationships with people you work with. The workplace becomes a very bad place to be if something goes wrong, as in this case of yours here.
Take care.
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reader, kimberley90 +, writes (29 April 2008):
hi, dont feel embarressed or awkward if you ask me he is probably the 1 who feels awkward. your conversations are bound to be tense you have just revealed your true feelings and its probably shocked the fella, just ask him what he thinks about what you have just told him and just be honest with him, as the saying goes you dont get if you dont ask. If he knocks you back but offers his friendship dont beat yourself up about it, i know rejection isnt a nice thing but it will make you stronger and more dominate and a strong person and hey theres more fish in the sea! be brave and confront him you will be relieved and he will be too, and hey you never know he might feel the same way too remember if you dont you may never know how he feels take a chance life is too short good luck and let me know
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