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writes:Hello Cupid’s, I have a question So I will keep this as short as I can. I have a male friend who I feel in love with, I told him back in December and he did not take it as I had hoped, such as, he did not call me or see me for months. I finally said for us to meet up and sort it out. We sorted it out somewhat but I was not completely happy, it made me sad on how he treated me and how we resolved the issue. He was happy that we went back to normal, but I did not want to lose him so I went along with it. We have not seen each other in a while because of our jobs, but even before I told him how I felt, I had been preparing him a birthday gift, which I was going to give him on his birthday but now I do not know if I should give it to him. (his birthday is in two weeks)Basically, this gift was made with love and care and it took me forever. I do not want to give it to him now because of the following reason: A mutual male friend has told me that the man in question may be seeing his work colleague. My friend told me that the person I cared for had thought about asking her out for a while (a few weeks after I told him that I liked him), so now I am thinking why should I make an effort for your birthday. I am just upset because I did not want to find out like that. I know he does not love me, and I wish him the best, but it seems like the pain I went through was irrelevant to him when he was making his decision. But I guess why would I factor in his decision making.I planned his gift for ages, but now he has a girlfriend and does not really speak to me unless I call or txt him, I am asking myself is it even worth it. I was his closest friend since high school, but I don’t want to come off bad, I don’t want him or others to think that I am being nasty because he did not feel the same for me.Maybe I should give him a gift as a farewell present, like we have grown apart yadda yadda ORJust give it to him and leave it at that just move on Or just forget about him full stop.Any advice Cupids?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): Hi Honey Pie,
Thanks for the reply.
I made him the gift because it is something I do for all or my friends; it shows that I would rather give them something from my heart, made by me rather than give a store bought gift.
I think giving the gift in person is not an option, but i want to give it to him, so at least if we part ways, he can look back on it and remember that we had good times.
I did not make the gift so he would fall in love with me, don't worry I not silly, but maybe i felt that he would treat me better
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 May 2012):
 I wouldn't give him the gift. However I think you need to accept that he will perhaps never like you the way you like him.
Personally I would just let him go. I think if you keep "pretending" you can be his friend (when being his friend is the last thing you want) it will hold you back from moving on and finding someone who WILL love you back.
When you made the gift were you hoping he would change his mind? Or what was the reason for making him that gift?
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