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writes:I've now been in a relationship for 4 weeks. Not long, but things are moving veryyy slowly. Probably too slowly. We were seeing each other before for about 2 months. We seemed to see each other more then than what we do now we're in a relationship. It was actually me that initiated the conversation of us getting together. He never mentioned it. That makes me wonder whether he is just going along with this as he doesn't show much interest. It's frustrating as we rarely see each other outside of clubbing and hanging out as a group with my friends. He's been to mine a few times but that's all.I haven't actually met alone with him yet. Although I have suggested a walk. But our plans just never seem to work out. We only ever end up meeting up again when my friends make plans for parties or social events. Texting is really only our way of communication in the meantime and even that is wearing thin. He takes a long time to reply so not much of a conversation. I don't want to break up with him because when I'm with him when we go out I really enjoy spending time with him. Actions speak louder than words and he is so lovey dovey with me, cuddling and kissing. It just always seems to be me paying him compliments, suggesting dates.... We stayed in a hotel a couple of weeks ago. It was really nice. I tried chatting to him but I find he doesn't open up easily he just agrees with me. So communication is difficult. We haven't done anything sexually yet. I'm a virgin and he knows that. I like him when I'm with him, but when we're apart I want to just end it.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 Listen to the part of you that is telling you to end the relationship. It sounds like you have done most of the pursuit and at a certain point, it's become apparent he's not as into you as you would like. I'm sure there are better matches for you out there, if you are dating him, you'll miss the opportunity.
You say actions speak louder than words, and then mention the kissing and cuddling. You forget that his other actions, or LACK of them, speak just as loudly. He doesn't ask you to go out, just the two of you. He doesn't enjoy talking to you much. He doesn't open up. He is basically a big lump. THOSE are the actions that are screaming at you, but you focus on the loveydovey ones, because that's what you are hoping for.
I think your common sense is calling you, that's the part of you that is saying end it.
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