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writes: Met the girl of my dreams and fell for her straight away, even leaving a girlfriend to be with her. After a while she told me that she was date raped whilst on holiday, and afterwards she ran away from home, got involved with drugs and drank heavily. She told me that she slept with what I consider to be a lot of people at this time.I'm naturally a jealous person and don't believe in casual sexual relationships. What she told me eats me up everyday and I want to assault any man that looks at her and am deeply resentful of her past even though I can't truly understand the things that she went through. I don't want to judge but how can I let this go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): Basically, what you gotta do man, is push everyone else aside. If you ask someone if they are going to rip you off, and they are mentally capable, they will, because they will figure '"they" CAN.'
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006): Think about some professional help for your insecurities and jealous, controlling behaviours. Here you are in a new, exciting relationship and all you can focus on, is your feelings of resentment. So Sad! Get it together and stop doing this. Change your way of thinking. If you can't, cut her loose and don't put her through this. If you focus and appreciate what you have with this new gf, you'll end up having more with her and your love will grow. If you focus on what she lacks and what you lack, you will never have enough. That is a guarantee because already, you are doing this. Your jealousies and resentment of her past, will eventually destroy your happiness. I'd get that in check..asap... if I were you. Instead of thinking about her past...think about only what you share with her, in the here and now. Just remember...the fastest way to lose love is too hold it too tightly. You can't control anyone's life and their pasts nor their way of thinking. But you can change your own way of thinking.. She's a free, independent thinker and the best way to keep her love, is by trusting her and shaking off your fears of losing her.
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