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writes:I've been dateing the same guy for 10 months and I still realy care abut him and he still really cares about me. We've been through tough times and we have always bounced back he is sweet careing funny (and really cute) but we have complete different goals in life. So, logically I shouldn't be with him. I make very good grades and he makes ok ones.Now, there is my friend. I've know him for a few years and he is not very smooth with the ladies. But somehow I care about him alot and I made the mistake of telling him, at the moment it didn't seem like a bad thing and so he told me he liked me alot too and so something happened. I cheated on my boyfriend with one of my best friends and I feel awful. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and I told him what happend and I told him that he desrved better, but he said that I was the best girlfriend he ever had and he still wanted to go out. But I knew that I would do it again and that I couldn't trust myself.My friend is smart and we have the same intrest and I really like him. It seems that what one quality guy lacks the other seems to have. I love both of them and I can't decide what to do and I'm terrified of hurting one of them but I can't imagine life without them and it hurts and I hurt and I really need help.
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reader, missconfused101 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Well in my opinion I say go for the second guy. If you really loved the first guy then you would've never fallen for the second guy. :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 If you dont trust yourself not to cheat on your boyfriend with your friend then its best that the both of you are broken up because it shouldnt be like that. When you are in a loving relationship you shouldnt cheat on a person because if you really loved them no matter what you wouldnt want to see them hurt. Obviously you are very confused and also you are still very young ( 13 -15 ) therefore i think its best if you stay on your own for a while until the confusion goes away. Its probably your hormones kicking in and you are reaching the stage where you are just so confused about what you want or who you want. Until you make your mind up i think it is best to stay single until you can decide who you want to be with because you dont want to end up hurting either of these boys.
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reader, Willowgirl13  +, writes (14 January 2011):
I think you should think about what attracted you to your bf (ex) in the first place. Then I would think about the best friend and any other reasons why you think you love him. In the mean time give both Bit of distance, tell them your sorting things out in your head or something. it sounds like the bf is Very clingy! X I'm sure you'll make the right choice :D
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