I love this guy so much but am afraid to tell him in case I ruin what we already have...

A male age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'm a sophmore and I'm 16 years old BI (NOT OUT)....ok so I recently met this guy, he's a foreign exchange student and he's a senior(18) and he's in 2 of my classes... we've been friends for about 2 months(we became friends after 2 weeks of hes arrival) and now we are extremely close.. we always hangout we're basically best friends at this point... ok the thing is that I'm starting to like him actually I felt feelings the moment I first hung out with him... the problem is that I have no idea if he feels the same way :( I'm so freaking scared to tell him how I feel because I don't want to ruin everything, we text almost every day, I sometimes try to give him some sort of a sign that I'm into him like texting him "good night ;-)" with a little face winking and he reponds the same way... or like last night, we went to a game (he's really into sports which worries me too) and after he dropped me off he texted me "it was one of the best nights" and he always does that whenever we hang out which makes me feel really good... sometimes I think to myself "maybe he's feeling the same way I'm feeling" but it's so hard to tell.... I've asked him does he have a girlfriend in his counrty an he said no, he is a pretty quiet guy.. whenever him and I hangout, we have a lot of awkward silence moments when none of us talk at all and in my head I'm just thinking "god! what do I say"(maybe he's thinking the same thing) I'm usually a pretty outgoing guy whenevr I hangout with my friends and HIM I'm usually the guy starting the conversations!!!but whenever it's just the two of us I get speechless..... he also does a lot of the staring thing, when he stares at me and the moment I look he turns around but sometimes I catch him staring he just smiles so I smile back at him (his smile is so beautiful and his eyes are WOW )oooohh and one time we were watching a movie at my friend's house (girl)(oh and she's one of my other problems she's like my best girlfriend we're always together and to make things worse she likes me and I love flirting with her but that's as far as I go, I'm afraid that HE may think I like her:()****ok back to the story - when we were watching the movie at HER house***....So for some reason me and him were just laughing really hard (don't remember why) but then all the sudden the laughing stopped and we began to stare at each other for a good 7 seconds (no laughing no nothing just looking into each others eyes) it was one of the best moments ever.. I could feel something in my stomach and my hands were shakeing big time... I really felt a connection, and I'm sure it was mutual... I really don't know what to do! Sometiems when I get home from hanging out with him I get very emotional, I've even cried because it's so hard to look into his eyes and not be able to let him know how I feel because of my fear of ruining our friendship.. and to make things worse he will be going back to his counrty in a year and I don't want to wonder what could of happend,,,, when he's gone....

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