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writes: Hello everybody! A while ago, i posted this question. I got a very helpfull message back, but i have some new information now so maybe someone can help me even more :)I have a strange , very frustrating problem.So there is this girl, one year older then me, (btw, next year we will probably be in the same class) and ahe has a boyfriend.But the boyfriend acts seriously wierd! I see them quite often(she is a friend of mine, i dont realy know him) and she is constantly trying to get his attention, kissing him touching everything. And he just is... Completely uninterested. As if he doesnt want her. One time, she had been ill for 4 days, and finally saw him again, she immedeatly hugged him and he was looking over her shoulder , yawning, looking extremely uninterested. When she was confronted bou this by my best female friend, she closed off and completely evaded it. She also does not seem to be very interested in him, she is the kind of person that just likes to give and recieve lots of attention, hugging etc. When he is not around she often hugs me, and she is always seeking me, wanting to talk to me and everything. Im in our schools theater - technician group(which is btw very different from the stereotype at our school we are normal or even quite popular) and all of a sudden, she wants to join too, while she doesnt know the difference between jack and xlr :) when i asked why she wanted to join she said it seemed fun to her, and she could offer "moral support"Her friend is now 18 btw, im 15 and she is 16.And i realy like her. Im holding back my feelings, which is very hard, but i love her. Its also very hard when she hugs me etc, cause i cant realy dare react to it and thus often remain still, which she does not realy like..I realy hope someone can analyze the situation a bit and help me... I want her 0=) and i totaly have a feeling she wants me too.Sorry for bad grammer! First language is dutch, lots of what i said is probably lost in translation :(Soo that wAs my question from a month or so back. In the meantime, i went to her home, she had a "computer problem" which turned out to be not very important. After that we watched a movie. The whole time i had a feeling she wanted to talk bout something( probably her boyfriend) but she did not dare start that conversation, and neither did i.. While i was working at her pc(which only took about 2-5 minutes) i secretly copied all of her msn conversations with her BF.(yes i know it is not ethical, but im in love, and i needed to know....)today i finished reading it, and i almost had to cry. My suspicions were correct, except that she seems to really REALLY love him. But he is completely not the right guy for her. She is quite... Sexually frustrated, but he seems to be asexual. She cries a lot, and her bf does almost nothing to comfort her and seems to be playing world of warcraft constantly. Help? Anyone? PLEASE? i feel so sad for her, and for myself too...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, i see that too... but well, what should i say? And what are the changes of her getting mad and everything...
I do not want to hurt her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Well, I'd say that your only real option is to talk to her about it. You're going to have to start the conversation.
Good luck!
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