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writes:ok so the thing is im 15 and i have a big problem and that is that im in love with a girl that has gone thru every guy in school and in February 14 2009 i gave her an ipod touch as a gift and that morning before i gave her the gift all of my friends were saying not to do it but i still did (im real dumb). ok later in spring break i told all my friends that i did not like her anymore . its not true i still love her.We were never anything. and she accepted the gift the problem is i still love her what should i do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): An iPod touch! I bet that was the best valentine's present she's ever had. I think your friends were right in saying not to give it to her, but it's done now.
I assume apart from thanking you she hasn't bothered with you since? If this isn't true and you are friends with her or at least in regular contact with her then could you get to know her more?
Put aside the fact that she has gone out with a lot of guys - (and if you don't know her personally then you don't know if what you've heard is the truth) Do you want to try and persue something, or do you just want to get over her without trying? (if you haven't tried).
I know you're worried about what your friends will think and I know guys your age don't really talk about their feelings but there is nothing wrong with telling your friends you still like her.
They will either encourage or discourage you, but it's up to you whether you want to try and get to know her more or not. If you do, then great, but keep in the back of your head that you might be rejected, but something this is the risk people have to take in order to get what they want and not think 'what if'. If you want to get over her with/without having tried, then you should keep away from her and when you find yourself thinking about her, do things that will keep your mind busy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): Does she know that you love her? Or that you did love her? She must have assumed you felt something if you gave her that (so so generous!) gift, but did you follow it up with any other signs?
You ask: what should I should? I ask: what do you want to do? Do you want to move on from this love because of how many guys she has had in the past or would you rather be with her despite the other guys? Ask yourself how much you really want her....
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