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*white28
writes:I am 27 years old and I am dating this woman right. We have sex all the time and please each other all the time. But thursday night I was at my apartment and I got on craigs list and posted that I wanted to give a guy a bj. Well I did not think any one would call. But I get a call and when I answered he asked if I was busy. He came over and I felt like I had to give him a bj because he drove 20min to come get a bj. SO I brought myself to give him a bj. Then afterwards I felt bad then today I send him a text to come over monday night May 17th 2010 because I want to give him another one. Am I gay or what. I love having sex with women but for some reason I like giving this guy bj's. I am confused. Again am I gay or what. Somebody please help me realize what I am?
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reader, nothing.lasts.and.nothing's.lost  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 Well it's not that hard to establish that you're bisexual surely?...A lot of people are, some go their whole lives closet bisexuals. I don't think the problem's that you enjoy both the woman's sex, and giving oral sex to a man, but the problem is deciding who you want. It's not fair on either the man or the woman, unless they are both into threesomes! If you're just dating this lady and it's nothing serious yet, then at least you can try and make up your mind what you want before you're in too deep. But I wouldn't continue with both people at the same time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): You are bisexual. You enjoy having sex with men and women. I imagine this is something thats been on your mind for a while. You really must talk to your girlfriend and explain how you feel and what you are doing. You dont know this guy or his sexual history or health. If you gave him a bj without using protection you could have exposed yourself to std`d including AIDs.
Its dishonest to keep your sexuality from your girlfriend. And very wrong to expose her to anything that could risk her health or life. Universalman explained that you should just carry on and enjoy yourself. But casual sex outside your relationship without protection or std checks first, is totally irresponsible and could have devastating consequences. Not just physically but emotionally too. Whether its with other men or women! So please do talk to her.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (17 May 2010):
Other people are going to try to label you enough to last a lifetime... you don't need to worry about how to label yourself as well. You like having sex with women, good, keep doing it. You like giving this guy blowjobs, good, keep doing it. Maybe it's just a phase, maybe it's not. It doesn't matter. Enjoy life and do what pleases you. When someone asks you to provide a label for yourself so that they can mentally categorize you, simply decline to do so.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 You like women and men both? Then it seems like you are bisexual.
The fact that you like to give men blowjobs isn't the actual issue, and it shouldn't be an issue. Your sexuality is part of who you are.
If I were you, I'd be more worried about what your girlfriend might think if she finds out about it.
But, yeah, you seem bisexual to me.
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